Help for Overwhelmed Moms

Having three little boys in less than four years just about did me in.  Life was hard when they were small.  All the whining, crying and complaining … and then there were the children …

In my devotion today I told about a phase in my parenting when I reached out for help.  But that wasn’t how I handled motherhood at first.  Before I explain, I’d like to welcome any readers who are here for the first time after reading my Encouragement for Today devotion.  I’m so glad you’re here.   Please keep reading for some great giveaways that will encourage moms.  But first, let me take you back to the early years of being a mom.

Back then, I refused to admit that having children changed my life.   Crazy, I know.  But I wanted to keep doing all the things I used to do before children.   In fact, I secretly took pride in being able to do a lot no matter what it cost all of us.  So I dragged those little boys here and there, usually leaving early with a pasted-on smile and held-back sobs until I could get into the safety of my car and collapse.

My entire life at that time was filled with trying to regain my old life … and the old me. But it wasn’t happening.  No matter how hard I tried I couldn’t match my circumstances with my personal expectations.  And I was one big disappointment after another – to myself.

There was this quiet sense of desperation that life was passing me by.   All I saw were my limitations.  And I was miserable.  But I never told anyone. I kept it inside and just tried harder.

Oh how I wish I could go back to my younger self and give her some advice.  There was so much I missed back then.  Thankfully, God intervened in a BIG way and I learned some lessons that saved me from years of regrets. But if I could, here’s what I would say to my overwhelmed self 16 years ago.

1)  Renegotiate your expectations of yourself.  Don’t expect that you can do the same things you used to do.  That not fair to you or your family.  You might be able to maintain the same lifestyle for awhile, but the costs will not be worth it in the long-run.

2)  Your worth and value aren’t found in what you can do.  They aren’t found in how well you can run a committee, organize a retreat or handle a job.  They aren’t found in how well you can sing or direct VBS.  Your value isn’t found in your accomplishments because things never stay accomplished.  Your worth is found in who you are in Christ.  You don’t have to do anything.  Just be.

3)  There is no unproductive time in God’s economy.  What seems like wasted years, aren’t.  God is always doing something, teaching you something, preparing you for something.  If you miss what God has put in front of you right now, you won’t be ready for the next thing when the time is right.

4)  Pay attention to your heart more than your appearance.  And I don’t mean physical appearance.  You can fool everyone else, but you can’t fool God.  And He cares about what’s going on inside.  Guard your heart against complaining, critical thoughts, envy, judgment and anything that isn’t of God.  Take your wrong thoughts captive and submit them to the Lord for His help in changing them.

5)  Tell someone how hard this is for you.  Find a MOPS group, start a moms group in your neighborhood, or invite someone over for coffee.  Don’t do this alone. And if the first person or group isn’t a good fit, then try another one.  You need support from moms who understand how tough this motherhood thing really is and who won’t judge you or make you feel less spiritual because you admit you sometimes think about running away (even though you’d never do it in a million years).

If you are feeling overwhelmed and desperate today, I know just how you feel. And so does our Heavenly Father.  He knows when you wonder if you will ever wear anything besides your pajamas again.  He sees every tear you cry after you take your baby to a caregiver on the way to work.  He knows howhorrible you feel after you’ve exploded over something minor.  He sees, He knows and He cares.  And He longs to have you turn to Him before you do anything else.

Being a mom is the best and hardest job I’ve ever had.  This week as we get ready to celebrate Mother’s Day, I hope you’ll take the time let a mother know how much you care about her and appreciate all she does. In honor of Mother’s Day, my friend Renee Swope and I have gotten together to bless a few of you with some gifts.  Renee is featured in a new book by Revell Publishing called “Always There.”  It’s a compilation of reflections for moms on God’s presence.  We’ve got two copies to give away to someone who posts a comment on my blog today or tomorrow.

Renee is also giving away a copy of her Mining for Gold in the Heart of Your Child chart and one of her CD messages for moms.  I hope you’ll visit Renee’s blog today and get to know her.  She’s an incredible mother and her writing encourages me personally.

I’m so glad you stopped by today.  If you are reading this in an email, please make sure you click here to enter the drawing by leaving a comment on today’s topic.  To leave a comment go to www.GlynnisWhitwer.com, scroll to the bottom of the post below my name and click on the comments link.

Thanks again for joining me, and may the Lord be your peace today.

In His love,

Glynnis

 

 

 

 

 

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Comments

  1. Cheree says

    Thanks so much for the reminder – Just what I needed to hear right at this moment in life! :)

    • Anonymous says

      Thank you for this message of hope for mommys and encouragement for times of desperation. I am just starting on this journey as a new mommy and needed to hear this message. Thank you!!!

    • Laura says

      This devotion this morning has really hit a chord with me. I am a desperate mother seeking help for my 16 year old daughter. See I have raised two other children and things have gone unbelievably well, however our baby girl has been such a challenge. I see sadness in her eyes and a desperation in her heart to find her place in the world and where to find her satisfaction. As I sit and write this I the tears are flowing freely simply because I don’t know how to help her. I pray diligently for her but just feel so helpless at times. I am so glad that I logged on to your blog and I intend to order the book about helping your hurting time. Thanks again for the post and allowing God to use you as a tool to help others who truly are desperate.

      • Anonymous says

        Thank you so much for opening up and sharing these helpful and heartfelt tips and insights into what you have learned. I agree with all of them. I wish I had read this 10 years ago when I was starting motherhood.

      • Anonymous says

        Praying for your 16 year old daughter and you… My heart aches for you and so know that your prayers and the prayers of those you open up about this too…will allow God to fill in the gap…where your daughter needs it most!

      • Anonymous says

        I’m so sorry about what you’re going through…i am in the same situation with my 13 year old son,so i know that helpless feeling. It’s so difficult. God will give you strength…just keep going to Him. I will too.

      • Darla says

        Thanks for the chance at the books, I truly hope that I win!!! As a mother and stepmother to our seven children, which 5/7 are girls too, I am always on the look-out for encouragement!!!! I thank God for you, and all other Christian Authors as well.

      • says

        Laura, I don’t know if you’ll see this but I pray you do. I was that 16 yr old girl you are describing in your daughter. I shared so much of my story and how God helped me find my place in Him and in the world through my book, A Confident Heart. It is filled with so much truth and promises to help her see her worth in His eyes

        I would love to send you two copies – one for you and your daughter to read together. Just email me at renee@reneeswope.com

    • Judy says

      Thank you so much for your wonderful message today. I am very much in a place of hiding. I am truly at a point of desperation and in my journal today I wrote, ” For me, I think I get it too that God is everywhere but where I falter is that way down deep feeling that he isn’t by “MY” side because of my circumstances. The verse of Psalm 142:6 fits me to a tee. I am in desperate need and need rescuing. The problem I have is the part in Psalm 27:14 of “Waiting for the Lord and being strong.” I am not strong. I am very weak.

      The part I am holding onto now is this, ” He sees, He knows and He cares.” I have posted that on my computer at work and very much need to see that ALL the time.

      Thanks again and Blessings to you for your wonderful message.

      • Alicia Starr says

        Judy, thank YOU for posting those verses. They are what I need this morning. Now if you like, I can give you a personal witness of how God revealed to me that He is very much involved in the details of our lives. I was doubting that hardcore for months – its sometimes easier to see how He touches other’s lives, but not so easy to see from our own point of view. So, one afternoon, about 16 months ago, my daughters were playing outside, and one of them fell from our (former) climbing tree. (She is OK!) It was a terrifying experience for all of us, but God used it to show me how much He is truly in the details. My husband was working from home that day, neighbors were home to care for the other children while we rushed her to the hospital, a close friend who is never early for anything happened to be running early and drove by and stopped to pray with us as my daughter was being prepped in the ambulance, two ministers from our church came to the hospital while my daughter was still in the trauma room….So much lined up to make me know that God had to have orchestrated the details! I also found out about a week after, that two of my friends had driven by the ambulance and prayed for us. Amazing! I am now convinced that He is in the details. And my daughter is no worse for the wear. She says she might like to be “one of those people who works in the ambulance”, gets excited when she sees an ambulance “That’s my ambulance!”, and she prays every time we hear one. God is so good!! ~AliciaStarrNC@hotmail.com

    • Laura says

      This message really hits home. It reminds me not to judge myself based on any earthly values like the nutritional value of my children’s last meal or how well they behaved on our last errand. I have been struggling with how to assess myself as a mother and wondering if a daycare would do a better job than me. So much of the day is filled with feeding, naps, potty trips, diaper changes and chores that I often feel like I don’t provide enough educational activities for my kids. My husband and I are struggling financially and I am considering going back to work. Childcare expenses would eat up most of my salary but perhaps getting back in the work force would open up future opportunities.

    • Tracey Page says

      Thanks! Always good to hear an encourgement! I am the mother of a 12 yr old girl. Feel very frustrated!

    • says

      Thanks – I often feel so overwhelmed and alone with a 1,2 and 5 year old. It is hard to find a place to fit in or even feel like anyone can relate to life right now. It is so hard to be consistent with anything! I know God is the only constant in this season of life, but it just gets so hard…

    • Amanda Dixon says

      My daughters are 16,12,and 8.My 16 year old is facing a court hearing on Monday because she lied to the police just to get a boy to leave her alone.I couldn’t believe she would do something that extreme!I have blamed my past failures for her decision because she has witnessed me being a liar many times(thank God for his forgiveness!).I can identify w/your post where it says you didn’t want to let go of the life you had before kids.I have been chasing after that part of my life too.For 17 years I have been pining for the days when I was so close to my husband that we were the best friends ever! But now in the busyness of parenting we have become strangers to one another.I can’t even come up w/a decent conversation to have w/him anymore! So we sit in the same room in complete silence while I watch tv and he plays games on the computer.I get so lonely,but I don’t know what to do anymore.I want to be a good example of a wife for my girls.I haven’t done a good job so far.I am expected to handle all the finances as well.I am so lost and it seems we keep getting farther and farther into financial trouble. I need God to pull me up out of this crazy ocean that keeps tossing my life in every direction but His.

      • Glynnis says

        Amanda – You’ve taken an important first step and that is admitting there is a problem. I can tell that life feels overwhelming right now and impossible to manage. And although that’s a hard place it’s also the place where God can step in with some miracles. But we have to ask for His help, then TRUST that the answers are from Him. Here are some verses in James 1 that have really helped me hear from God.

        “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. 6 But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7 That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does.”

        The Lord will give you wisdom and direction. I’m confident of it!

  2. Jennifer says

    Can soooo relate!!! It’s always good to know that someone has been there and made it through! Thank you for your encouragement!!!!!!!

  3. Kelli D. says

    Thank you for your devotion this morning. It came just at the right time and totally lifted my spirits. May God bless you! :-)

  4. Marisabel says

    Thank you Glyniss. It is as if you where there this morning listening to my prayer before getting up. The Lord has used your devotional to turn a light on over my path ,today.
    I Loved,

  5. says

    Thanks for sharing! It is comforting to know that another mom has struggled with the same feelings of failure and overwhelm that I do. And thanks for the giveaway chance- this book sounds like a refreshing dose of encouragement :)

  6. Sonja Chadwick says

    I love your encouragement and often share it with our group of ladies during our weekly get together or via email to about 50 readers. Do you ever consider offering freebies or e-books or any protected electronic form to those of us that is not local, I’m a South African women and although Renee’s book seems cheap at $7, with our currencies, its about R100 which can relate to about $80 plus shipping fees???

  7. Bethany Van Mill says

    I am amazed at how God knows what I need. I’m at a loss lately as a mother and have been feeling like a failure. I have 5 boys (16, 11, 3 and 5 month old twins). They are the greatest blessing I am in overwhelmed to say the least. My patience is limited. Reading this has given me a great reminder that I’m not alone. Thank you!

  8. Anonymous says

    I soooo needed this…to know I’m not alone because so often thats how I feel. Your statement “There was this quiet sense of desperation that life was passing me by.   All I saw were my limitations.  And I was miserable.” applies to my life so intensely and it has for years.
    I received encouragement from “If you are feeling overwhelmed and desperate today, I know just how you feel. And so does our Heavenly Father.  He knows when you wonder if you will ever wear anything besides your pajamas again.  He sees every tear you cry after you take your baby to a caregiver on the way to work.  He knows howhorrible you feel after you’ve exploded over something minor.  He sees, He knows and He cares.  And He longs to have you turn to Him before you do anything else.”
    Although admittedly I struggle with believing this is true on many days.
    Thank you for writing this Glynnis. I don’t often have time to read these each day but God meant for me to see this, so thank you for being his voice.

  9. Pam says

    Thank you! What a helpful word of encouragement. I know my past is forgiven, but being a mom of perfection (God’s working on that still), I was encouraged reading “God sees, knows, cares and longs” where I am concerned. Bless you for being such a blessing!

  10. Cathy says

    I know this will be so encouraging to all the young mom’s that are struggling with this same problem. Great advice!

  11. Teresa says

    I was a single mom raising a girl and a boy. Trying to find a job where I didn’t have to work when my kids were home, trying to pay bills when I was only on unemployment and food stamps. when the kids would get mad at me for disciplining them and the words ‘I hate you’ came from their mouths, sometimes I would go into my bedroom, grab a suitcase and start throwing things into it. The kids would beg me to stay and say they were sorry, that they loved me.
    My daughter, 32, passed away Oct 2011; she raised 2 boys while her husband was overseas in the Army. My son is a single dad raising his son while his girlfriend is in rehab for drug addiction. They both turned out to be great parents and I am proud of both of them

  12. Barbara Moore says

    God’s timing is perfect. I was in desperate need of this message today. My children are almost all grown up. I have two weddings this summer in the same month…I am not a wedding person. Thanks be to God for His reminders of His love when life is not perfect. God bless you!

  13. Noemi Welsch says

    Ive been feeling a little down for the past week. 4 kids one mommy… Thank you so much for all you do for all of us to enjoy. From one busy mom to another.

  14. erin zimmerman says

    Thank you for this. We have two toddler boys, and just running around the house with them is tiring, trying to prevent tragedy or injury all day (even with babygates and al the safety paraphernalia, they’re still boys!).
    Thank you for encouragement and the reminder that these years are important, and will be gone all too quickly.
    God bless!

  15. Stephanie C says

    Thank you so much for this devotional. It is so on time. There are so many times I feel so alone and want to run away from my family from my life but I’m still trying to hang in there and keep afloat. Thank u I really needed to here/ read this today.

  16. Heather vann says

    Not a mom but this helps me with situations as a youth pastors wife and being a kind of second mom to the youth in our church.

  17. Denise says

    Thank you so much for today’s message. I don’t have children at home anymore, in fact I’m a grandmother but your message hit me in another way. My wonderful husband died just over three years ago. I have struggled with trying to be the same person I was before his death. I have tried so hard to “renegotiate the espectations of my life”. It has been a struggle. I have struggled and continue to struggle with financial issues, mistakes I have made in the last 3 years while trying to “re-invent” myself, continue to be the mother and grandmother to my family that I was before. It has been very hard to do. Your message today has helped me to realize I’m not that same person and I do have some difficult decisions to make but I know that God is there with me. All I have to do is let him guide me in the direction I need to go and the decisions I need to make. Thank you again.

  18. Lanie says

    Once again I’m convinced you have a nanny-cam set up in my home…and my heart. Thank you for your honest encouragement.

  19. says

    Reading the other posts I feel guilty for even trying to win this free copy of your book. My kids are 12 and 17 and we have been through tuff spells, but we are good. I know we are not finished but they are more self sufficient. Ladies you will get there. I am still trying to juggle working full time and being there when they need me and taking care of their needs. Hang on ladies we will get there. I told my daughter one time that this was the first time God has let me be a parent and I will make mistake but if we are patient with each other God will bring us through. Good luck ladies and God bless us all!!!!!!!!!!!

  20. Meghan says

    I was just praying this morning for the development of Godly character in my oldest son. He is struggling with a difficult relationship right now and sometimes it seems I am getting through and sometimes not! Thanks for the encouraging notes.

  21. Robyn says

    This is so timely for my emotionally exhausting week. Thank you for your obedience to write honestly.

  22. April says

    I wish I could do it all and be supermom… thanks for reminding me that it’s ok not to be supermom!

  23. says

    I clicked over from my Proverbs 31 email, and I just love what you have to say here. I am the mother of two young boys, and yes, that was a difficult lesson to learn – life changes when you have kids! It seems obvious, but I tried so hard to make a square peg fit in a round hole without even realizing it. I can also identify with #3 – there is no unproductive time. I think as women we have to be sensitive to one another and give each other a break. Just because Susie Q seems to be able to teach Sunday School, work full time and volunteer at VBS, doesn’t mean that we should (1) ask her to do more or (2) expect every other mother to do the same! Really appreciate your words of wisdom here today.

  24. Jaclyn R. says

    This is exactly what I needed to hear. I have 3 kids and almost everyday I am at my wits end. I have been praying for something like this and all my devotionals and even my church’s sermon were on this same topic last week. I need so much help and I just want to enjoy my kids but I don’t know how. I am so encouraged to read that it isn’t just me going through this. I just feel that I need so much more guidance. Where was my parenting handbook? I think it got lost in the mail. Thank you so much for your post!

  25. Michelle Stephan says

    Thank you so much for the message today. I have been so overwhelmed lately and I tend to think I’m the only mother that feels this way. It was so comforting and hopeful to read your message this morning. It put my thinking on the right track this morning. Thank you again:)

  26. S Young says

    Thank you for your openness. I had three boys in 3 1/2 years. My oldest is turning 6 and just about to finish Kindergarten. There are very hard days. But, the hardest days are the ones in which I try to take the reigns and handle the day myself. When I start my day with the Lord (thank you for being part of a good start today) and TRUST Him, He takes care of every detail of the day. (I am a clear example of what Paul describes in Romans: I do want I do not want to do and do not do what I want to do.) My youngest is now 2 1/2 and there is a light at the end of the “baby” tunnel. Of course, other stages have their own trials, but sleep deprivation seems to be a thing of the past. What I have realized is “I am NOT Superwoman”, and I don’t have to be. As you said in your post, our precious Lord is not asking us to DO something. He leads, if only we will learn to follow.

  27. Jessica says

    As a mother of five young girls, this was a great encouragement! I still want to try and do it all. But, I am realizing that these five little gifts are my disciples and nothing is more important than training them up right now. Everything else can wait. :)

  28. Samantha Graber says

    Our unexpected twins came when our son was only 20 months. We had just moved to Chicago when I was 8 months pregnant with our son…first move EVER away from home, no family, no friends. It was HARD trying to be the perfect mom. Today’s devotional was all about me! Thank you!!! I have to say though, the kids are now 9 and 7 and it does get easier. Hang on through the preschool years…the ride does seem to slow down for a second. It’s either God’s way of giving you a break to breathe, or getting you ready to gear up for the next phase! God bless!

  29. Sara says

    What a blessing to my heart this morning. Thank you for sharing! I so need to trust my all-knowing and sufficient heavenly Father with all things, especially the lives of my children!

  30. Zoe says

    I so wish I had found this as a new mom, but since I still have little ones they all still apply. When I had a second child, God blessed me with Kate. She was a young woman looking to watch children on a part time basis. She helped me in ways I never knew possible. Over the years she became aunt Kate, is godmother to our third child, and we are godparents to her first child. She is now pregnant with her second and struggling…I would love to give this book to her for mother’s day. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and experience, you have helped me in innumerable ways. Blessings, zb

  31. Joyce says

    As moms we always think we’re the only one who can’t seem to have it all together like all the other moms who appear too. We’re all in the same boat: some days it seems we’ll drown like the disciples thought they would in the midst of the storm. And just like them we can call on Jesus and he’s right there to rescue us. Thank you Glynnis for the encouragement you give to all of us moms. Some days its tough being a mom, but like you said it is so rewarding. My husband reminds me that on those especially tough days where I feel like I failed, God isn’t sitting there shaking His head and saying boy I really messed up giving her those kids. Instead He’s right there to help me, care, and love me, just like you said Glynnis. As I’ve said before thankfully His mercies are new every morning.

  32. Valerie says

    Thank you so much for your post. I’m a single mom of two wonderful girls (10 years old and 20 months old) and I struggle each day just trying to deal with the continual emotional abuse from my almost ex-husband. I know intellectually that I’m doing okay but often my emotional self just doesn’t allow me to step back and acknowledge that things are getting better each day and to let myself just “be.” I am so blessed to have a supportive group of friends from MOPS but since I had to go back to work when I left him I have felt a bit lost. I juggle the custody schedule and try to convince myself that my daughters are getting everything they need even though I still often feel like I’m “falling short” when something goes awry. Every day I rely on God to help guide me through the decisions I make not only for my daughters but in my own struggles to walk in His path. The continued abuse is hard and often involves my ex doing something which hurts my girls in his effort to “get me” or “win” something (one of his favorite mantras was “if you push me, I’ll push back harder.”) Each week I put a prayer request in at my church asking for prayers to open my heart to God’s words and for Him to guide me because I still struggle with separating my emotions from the situation. Your post helped remind me this morning that I am not alone. Thank you so much.

  33. Laura says

    My girls are 3 and 5 and so I have been beginning to think that I can kinda have my old life back. (You know a job where people actually appreciate what you do and you might get a promotion or a pat on the back.) I have stuck my toe in the water back at my old employer, and I am sad and scared that I am not the same. (Neither is the agency) and going back is clearly not in God’s plan. I tell myself every day that being a stay at home mom is where I am suppose to be and God has a plan for my life..some days it’s easier to believe than others. This is the first time I read something on this topic of recognizing and accepting that we are different after kids and trusting God to show us the way.

    Thank you for your post!

  34. says

    I was asked by a friend yesterday what a good parenting day is for me. I said one where they are gone or I am. I feel so selfish. Your words are sending me to a heart check. Do I feel selfish because I am? Am I trying to attain a past version of me on stead of embracing the me God created for this season? This includes being a mom. A lot to think about. Thanks!

  35. says

    Thank you for the encouragement. Parenting a tween, grade schooler, pre-schooler and 2-year-old is a juggling match for me every day. I need Jesus for wisdom every day.

  36. Tina Gillenwater says

    Thank you for this devotion this morning. I too have dealt with some regrets from when my kids were younger. They are now 11 and 8 and I feel like I now appreciate being a mom and all that goes with it. God is Good and Faithful and has turned my heart toward my family and my home. Appearances (also not physical) had always been a
    driving force for me. As long as everyone seen me as a loving wife and devoted mother then I was ok. In that attempt to pose as who I wanted others to see me as I was actually just the opposite. I neglected my home and family and our lives were pretty chaotic for a few years. It’s still no picnic at times but I am seeking the Lord and praying for wisdom and guidance. I have absolutely loved reading your devotions on organization. I am slowly working on decluttering one area at a time!
    Thank you for your honesty and encouragement! God Bless your Ministry:)

  37. Ashley says

    Thank you for those words of encouragement. There are definitely moments where life feels so overwhelming. I appreciate you mentioning MOPS as I feel they are one of the best groups God ever led me to aside from my church family. Thank you again for such open and honest words.

  38. Leah says

    Wow! I think you spoke my thoughts this morning..I’m feeling these things constantly with being a mom of three. I am hearing God call me to be home with my kids and I am wrestling with the thoughts of loving my job, serving God through my job and yet desiring to focus on my family. Please pray for me..I am asking God for clarity for my husband and I to make this decision.

  39. anne says

    I need to print this out and hang it inside my cupboard door. Every morning when I reach for the tea and coffee I’ll see it and be reminded. Thanks for sharing!

  40. Melanie says

    I will be printing this and sharing it with my MOPS group this week and will be forwarding an email to the moms who don’t participate in MOPS. I have found comfort in your words and sometimes feel like supermom. In the Disney film “The Incredibles” the father/superhero complains that just as he is done “saving” someone there is always another to save. He feels like the maid…. dishes always stacking up and laundry always needs done. I feel that way a lot myself. But, if there are dishes to be done than that means someone has eaten and if the laundry needs washed than someone has been busy to dirty them up. I am thankful for the days that I encourage even my 2 1/2 year old twins to “help” even if it means re-doing it. On the days they don’t “help” I find myself having “bad” days. Thank you so much for your words and I am thankful to have stumbled across your ministry! (forgot to mention that I also have 9 yr. old & 12 yr. old “helpers”) God has truly blessed me with the “job” be he created just for me!

  41. Mary says

    I needed this today. Tears rolled down my cheeks as I read it. I am not a young mother. I am older and struggling with multiple heath issues that zap my energy as much as little kids ever did. I too have to change my expectations of myself and not judge my worth based on what I can do. I need to tell someone at work how hard this is for me now. I do not have the get-up-and-go or the just-push-through-it I had 5 years ago. Another new health issue hit me yesterday. Discouragement is just below the surface. Unspoken. Unacknowledged. But now acknowledged to my God, to whom it is no surprise. I have speculated that all our ills as we age are designed to make us long for the next life and turn lose of our grip on this one.

  42. says

    Dear Glynnis:
    I raised four children and I know what you are talking about. What hit me today was your prayer.
    I have three beautiful daughters and a son. One of these daughters is very I’ll (cancer).
    I did not seem to have the words that I needed to pray a prayer that would cover “it” all.
    My daughter is thirty years old with two precious little daughters of her own and a good husband.
    I certainly fall in the category of desperate moms.
    Thank you!

  43. Tiffany Bridgers says

    This was exactly what I needed although I love mother’s day I think mom’s need an entire month dedicated to them:) I am the mother of 5 from ages 5 to 16 one in preschool one in early college, two in private school and one son in high school. Yesterday was one of those days I felt like was it all worth it! Seems the harder I try to insteal the right things in them and want the best for them the harder it gets to do just that! I have just finished reading A confident heart and look forward to a copy of Renee’s new book! Thanks again it was more!!! than needed

  44. Dorothy Longshore says

    Thanks for all your words of wisdom and encouragement for moms and women. I have 3 adult children…all born in 4.5 years! The youngest is now 24! They are true blessings to my husband and myself…we have been married 32 years. I hope that many moms take the time to read your devotionals …. they are truly a Godsend , even at this time of my life…I often forward them to my friends!

  45. Kimberly says

    Thank you for this. I feel sometimes that I was created to have children-but not be their mother and raise them. I sometimes feel like a failure. I know God has my back and he has great things in store for me. I battle anxiety and depression on a daily basis and unfortunately my children have seen my wrath. I hate how I treat them. I ask for prayers so that I may count to ten more often than I do. I know God is teaching me cause he tested me last night and this morning with my daughter. I remained calm and did not shout or scream. That is saying a lot these days. Thank you Proverbs 31 for posting just the right devotion for me to read. Kimberly

  46. jennifer says

    Thank you for this encouragement today. I am struggling to “get it all together” after having baby #6 5 weeks ago and finding it a bit of a challenge this time around. It seems like every other time I had it all together by this point, but I have kids who are 2 years older than they were last time and involved in a lot more things than they were before, only adding to the craziness of our homeschooling, husband working 60 hours a week -working nights and sleeping days, mom working part-time as a writer from home family. I have done really well cutting myself some slack up to this point, but now I am beginning to feel like I don’t deserve slack anymore – the baby is almost 6 weeks old now. It has been hard to feel like God is there, to remember that He is in the midst of all the craziness, thanks for the reminder I needed to hear today. I know that if I can just focus on this truth, He will help me get it all together, or, cope with the reality if I don’t.

  47. Jamie says

    Like so many others, this message today was perfectly in tune with my heart right now!!! I have 4 small children ages (6 and 6 (not twins), 3 and 1) and my husband and I both work full time and are part time youth pastors. I don’t have one child that is “calm and easy going.” They are all strong-willed but also very different and it is hard to deal with all the needs and areas that need training at once. I don’t even know where to begin most of the time. I have really struggled with feeling hopeless and desparate for a while. Running to God in my desparation instead of hiding or running away in frustration has really helped me. As I have pushed into Him, He has encouraged me. Your message today was just one more example of His perfectly timed writing!!! I chuckled at the part where you mentioned the thought over running away (even though you would never do it in a million years). I wasn’t sure others ever had that thought!

  48. says

    Great post! Not only is this good advice for mothers, but it is good advice for us no matter what stage of life we are in. As we get older, we still make demands of ourselves that we can’t meet due to illness, age or financial problems. Thanks for reminding us that our value is in HIM, not in what we do or how we look. God bless!

  49. Brenda Anderson says

    My kids are all grown but with having three boys extremely close in age then a daughter, this takes me back. I wish I could’ve heard this years ago but actually I can still use this message today. I just need a reminder to keep focused on my Maker and not let the business of the world get me OFF focus. Thank you for sharing=)

  50. Jessica Godfrey says

    Beautifully said… a friend of mine who shares the crazy world of 3 small children shared your blog with me today. This post was encouraging for this tired soul! Grateful God meets us in the most unusual places… I’m inspired by your authenticity and encouraged by the truth God has revealed in you! Blessings!!

  51. Shawney says

    At first, while reading the devotion I felt like “Ok. This doesn’t pertain to me today because I’m not feeling this way.” Then God began speaking to me. I re-read the devotion and realized that I was feeling overwhelmed. I have gotten so good at pretending that everthing is great and going smoothly, that I almost missed what God was telling me. Although all four of my children are in school, I am still unable to keep up with everything. I have been praying for years for guidance and balance in my life so that I could be the “super-mom” that it seems so many others are. Reality, I can’t do it all, but I can let the Lord lead me through my day and make it productive for Him. I know that if I can do that, then I will, have a BLESSED day! Thank you for reminding me of this as I begin my day.

  52. evelyn says

    What wonderful encouraging words and a great reminder to all us mothers! We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us!

  53. April says

    Perfect topic for me today… I have a 4 year old daughter and 21/2 yo son that I am no where near figuring out how to parent! And I about a month away from giving birth to our 3rd, another little girl! I am a nervous wreck! Thank you so much for the encouraging words and the reminder to give it to God!
    Many Blessings to you and all the wonderful women at Proverbs 31

  54. Roberta says

    Bless You. Thank you for your honesty. It makes me feel a bit more normal. I adopted a sibling group of four –two with attachment disorder, one more with cognitive difficulties –all while trying to maintain a full time teaching job. Overwhelmed does not even describe my feeling many days. As they grow the problems are getting bigger. I never dreamed that my children’s psychiatrist would become like part of the family. I rely on scripture and prayer…and emails like yours. :) My friends do not relate to me at all. Thank you for your openness. Mother’s Day has a bit different meaning when you are raising kids who cannot attach. Thank heaven for God’s love. Blessings to you and your ministry.

  55. Karen says

    I was challenged and encouraged this morning!!! I have worked full-time for so many years and wish we would have made more sacrifices so I could stay home. By our 3rd one who were about to adopt, I get it. I am longing to finally pour into them and making them my #1ministry ! I think it’s good for some people to work but for me I was running away and trying to hang onto my old life. I sensed God wanting me home Thankyou for that. And I love the mining chart by Renee Swope!!!! My kids love it too, stuff I wanted to teach them but wasn’t sure how I now can. Thanks God bless you all.

  56. Amy says

    Thank you for the much needed encouragement today. I follow your blog regularly and God definitely speaks to me through you and your blog. I am a former productive, organized, professional woman that is currently treading water as a mother of two young boys. I appreciate the advice that you would give your younger self. I appreciate you sharing so much of yourself in order to help others learn with you from your past experiences. Have a great day!

  57. Shanda says

    Great reminders that before we can serve God or our family; we need to know who we are in Christ. We need to place a high value on who we are in Him and not what we can do. There is beauty in resting in His presence and power. I am printing the steps listed today to challenge myself to trust God in the difficult, chaotic years of raising children because I don’t want to miss anything He has planned for me.
    Happy Mother’s Day!

  58. says

    Thank you Glynnis for your post today. It is wise advice. I am a married Catholic mother raising nine kids whose ages are 17, 15, 12, 10, 7, 6, 4, 2 and 3mo. The first two were born 22 mo apart and the 7 and 6 yo kids were born 10 mo apart (with an emergency appendectomy inbetween their deliveries). I also have one little baby looking down on us from heaven named Gabriel, who was miscarried very early in my 4th pregnancy. I take comfort in all the sweet little old ladies I know at the Catholic churches where I go to pray or worship. These sweet, holy women tell me they think of me often and pray for me…and I feel the graces from their prayers every day. Thank you again for your post this morning. It has been nice to find your blog through “A Slob Comes Clean.” God bless!

  59. Angie says

    Thanks so much for this! Even though my boys are teens, I still remember these emotions, and still deal with some of them today–the feelings of guilt when I lose it, etc. It’s so nice to be reminded that all moms deal with the same things–and we need to support each other!

  60. Kelli Goede says

    Gosh, this really came at a good time as I am completely overwhelmed as a mom right now. I have 3 children one with special needs and sometimes it just feels like I am spinning my wheels, I think I just needed this encouragement and I hope I do win the free book, I could really use it :-)

    Thanks so much again!

  61. Rebekah Raiteri says

    This was an encouragement. I have a four year old and twin two year olds. This was especially encouraging for me because over the past few weeks we have been so overwhelmed. My four year old fell and broke her arm days before one of my twins had a tonsillectomy. We are currently waiting to find out if my oldest will have to have surgery to repair her arm. I am also a student trying to finish my degree. It has seemed so overwhelming lately. It always seems when illness strikes the kids seem to behave terribly and behavior reverts to seeming like I’ve never disciplined my children before!! Life is definitely overwhelming right now. Thank you for reminding me to reach out and touch Jesus when I’m at my end.

  62. Katherine Lockwood says

    You are certainly looking through the window at my house. How good it feels to yet again find comfort in knowing that I’m not alone in my feelings or alone in overcoming my daily anxiety, fears and frustrations. I so appreciate the reminder that I need only be concerned about serving Our Lord and Savior. I often over commit to volunteer obligations thinking that is the best way for me to serve God but it is good to be reminded to pray daily about what God wants to be a priority in my life. As we all know the years with our children fly by and do I really want to miss those precious moments because I was trying to meet everyone else’s needs. I am blessed with children that are 13,11 and 4 so I’m pulled in totally different directions but Amen that God will pull my heart where it is suppose to be when I take the time to listen. Thanks for your guidance and inspiration! Happy Mother’s Day :)

  63. Jessica Cook says

    Thank you for your encouragement! I need to be reminded every single day to turn to God first when I feel overwhelmed. Thank you.
    Jessica

  64. Wendy says

    Thanks so much for sharing your experiences and encouragement. I am entering this day positively and excited to enjoy the small miracles of my beautiful sons. Having them 1.5 years apart, I often felt completely overwhelmed in the first year or so. I was just sharing with a friend yesterday about my days with infants vs preschoolers and how she really is normal to feel like she is accomplishing so little. It’s so little to our eyes but SO very significant in God’s eyes.

  65. Barbara says

    This was what I needed to hear today. I need to keep my eyes fixed on Him and to find my joy in Him and not in my children’s successes. If I hold that up as a bar, my 3 kids with issues can never satisfy what I need to find in Him. Oh that I would remember that today when I am in the trenches.

  66. Kristi R says

    Feeling overwhelmed with issues one of my sons is facing. Continuing to look to God for strength, answers and peace for all of us.

  67. Emily Fleener says

    Your gift of writing always blesses me when I read it, I am so thankful for this devotion and I plan to share it with all my mommy friends.

    God bless you,

    Emily

  68. Betsy M says

    At this stage fun, crazy stage of life, there is nothing more important than “networking” with other moms!

  69. Loralie says

    My favorite…point….”There is no unproductive time in God’s economy. What seems like wasted years, aren’t. God is always doing something, teaching you something, preparing you for something. If you miss what God has put in front of you right now, you won’t be ready for the next thing when the time is right.”

    Being in an attitude of thankfulness…makes all the difference.
    His Grace…His empowerment ….walks us through each day.

  70. Christine says

    We have three little ones and are still in the thick of it. I remember feeling like I had to be superwoman AND supermom – it almost felt like I was doing battle daily! Even better is the memory of the sweet surrender of it all and the peace I found in Christ. I can see the blessings and the joy so much clearer with a heart wrapped in God’s love. When it starts to feel like a fight, I surrender! :-)
    Christine

  71. Lori says

    I almost feel like you were spying on me over the past 17 years! My children are now 17, 16, 13 and 11. For years I kept trying to do it all…recently I have become content in where I am. Yes, I still struggle to stay there at times, but overall content.

    You reminded me that I am right where I am supposed to be. I may think I failed miserably when my children were young, but just maybe, God will use that in my life and instead of reaching for help, I will offer it! As well as the perspective and advice you outlined!

    Thank you for this beautiful Mother’s Day Gift!
    I intend to share it!

  72. says

    Thanks, Glynnis. I love the 5 points, especially the one that our worth and value is not in what we can do but in Christ. :-)

    By the way, your website design is awesome. I love the “Discovering Peace and Beauty One Moment at a Time.”

  73. Kim M. says

    I think being a mom has definitely been the hardest job of my life. I have 4 kids and work full time. I understand trying to maintain a lifestyle – I try to do that constantly and end up feeling like a failure. The most frustrating thing that I have found is that society and sometimes family members expect the “50′s leave it to beaver” mom and the “I can bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan” mom to exist in the same person all the time. I have tried for years to be both and it is exhausting and very unfulfilling. I appreciate your devotion because it reminds me that I don’t have to DO anything to be worthy – just exist in Him.
    Thank you so much. Happy Mother’s Day!
    Kim

  74. Judy says

    It has been a long time since my kids were small but now I find my self raising my grandchild. I have so many mixed feelings about that. I love having her around, things are so different now and I pray that I can be the parent in her life she needs. It is so hard for children when one parent is gone but when both are gone (but not really gone) that seems to be harder they just don’t understand.

  75. Cheryl S. says

    Oh, how I wish I had this devotional many years ago. I’m 52 now and have 3 grandchildren and I see how this devotional will help my daughter. I know she feels so overwhelmed and I try to help as much as possible. Thank you for sharing and being such an encouragement.

  76. Sylvia Cloud says

    Just like all 65 comments before mine, I really needed to hear your words today! I have four sons, the first three, just like you, all within four years. I KNOW how you felt, for it was just me, my husband and these babies living a nation away from any family as he sought his fame in Los Angeles. Visits to and from grandparents were, at best, once a year. We both had to grow up as we were teaching our babies how to grow and it was so difficult, but the saving grace was found in the church we attended – a family of its own right. But this morning, with my “baby” now a senior in high school and planning to move out when he graduates, I was hit with a wave of regret of things I wish I had done, and how distant I feel from them, even though they come and go with our home still the “homebase”..your email was a soothing balm. Thank you.

  77. Ron says

    WOW…Thank You for encouragement, Thank you for being a woman of God!
    As I type this reply I’m in tears because I know that God is real. I am a mother of 3 and so many times I have felt as though I’m not doing such a good parenting job. I have asked God to help me to become a better Parent because I really need his help. I signed up to receive emails for mothers on the website because much like you were I become desperate at times and I know that God can help. Well today’s word really has helped me because I know that I’m not alone but that there are other mothers like myself who do not have all of the answers and can’t always be the “perfect mom”. Please continue to encourage moms using Gods word and your experiences because today God used you to help me and I know that he will continue to use you to help another desperate mom that is like you were, crying for help! May God bless and continue to use you for the up building of his kingdom.
    Thank you again!

  78. says

    Wow. I thought I was the only Mommy that felt like running away sometimes. I’m a mother of four and I have been very overwhelmed at times. I’ve wanted to runaway back to the peace of the home I grew up in. The home where there were no responsibilities. There were no noses or bottoms to wipe. No involuntary sleep deprivation. No erratic nursing “schedule”. No repeating the same instructions a gazzilion times…
    However, I wouldn’t trade my life as mom for nothin’ absolutely nothin’. It can be rough at times but I’m so blessed to be able to stay at home with them. God has shown me favor.

  79. Robin says

    Thank-you so much for this post. My children are adults now and when I think back about their childhood I remember that I alot of the time it seeemed that I was just going through the motions sometimes. So what you say here is so true. Thank-you

  80. says

    Thank you for this. As a mom to three boys ages 4 and under and a small business owner I often feel this way. In fact, I feel this way more often than I would like to. Your blog is often the light of my day.

  81. Patti H says

    I always think I’m the only one feeling or going through whatever it is I’m going through. Thanks for this and the reminder that we as women have more in common and less to fear from reaching out to one another…and we may just find a friend for the journey!

  82. Elysia says

    I love reading your posts. A little over a year ago, my husband and I adopted our second child- a 3 year old boy. Our oldest son is 8, and I often find myself overwhelmed with two very busy boys. Your posts always speak to me and help me find perspective in our season of life. Thank you! And, you’re so right about finding a group of Mom’s for support. We have a very large adoption community in our city, and the coffee nights with the other Moms are a huge blessing.

  83. Katie hill says

    Nice to know that other people struggle in raising children! Having two and working full time things seem to get away from us all the time! But I do know that God has a plan for our lives and we must trust in Him!! Thanks for your encouraging words!!
    Katie

  84. Donna says

    Thank you for the encouragement! I was feeling overwhelmed by my problems and not being able to “do it all.” I needed the reminder that my worth is found in who I am in Christ. Thanks!

  85. Marisol says

    Thank you for sharing these encouraging words. It was a blessing to read during a frenzied week and month as a mother of two very active children!

  86. Jennie says

    Thank you for those encouraging words, this world is so motivate my accomplishments and rewards. All we need to worry about is where our heart is with God and not what the media or world view is. Thanks for this devotion!!

  87. Maura says

    Thank you! I am a mom to an 11 year old and a 1 year old. I really needed to hear this – especially #2 on your list. What a blessing to know that nothing else really matters than who I am in Christ! Thank you Jesus for making me whole in You! Somedays I just feel like I am on a never-ending ride with the drama that goes on. I feel like I have made some progress, but then someone has a meltdown- and somedays it is me! It helps so much to know that I don’t have to run the PTO or volunteer for every little thing to be a good mom. God gave me these children because He knew I would be the perfect mother to them. Thank you for my blessings Lord! I’ll take the drama too, because I know that one day my children will leave my house and then it will be quieter! Maybe…. Thank you for writing this for every mom that needs it!

  88. Melissa says

    Thank you for your wisdom today. It’s hard to swallow the first point, but my heart softened as I read on.

  89. malissa humphries says

    Glynnis, thank you so much for posting this today! I can remember all to well when mine were little and it all seemed so overwhelming..and everyone else seemed to have it together but me. Now, my children are older (still at home) and some days are still more than I can handle. Even now I forget that I can just rest in the arms of a loving God, after a difficult day, hard circumstances,failure, desperate attempts to do it on my own..again. He is ready and waiting to restore me, all I have to do is go to Him. Just saying that is humbling. Today, my prayer goes out to all the moms who aren’t perfect, may you find grace, and may God’s extragavent love be lavished on you wherever you are:)

  90. Susan says

    Whoa! That was so very much for me. I am in that stage of life – had three kids in less than four years, the youngest being 8 months old. I am in the middle of utter chaos most days – oh, did I mention that I’m packing an entire house and moving this weekend (thank God, only 20 minutes awat, but still!)?

    Thanks so much for continuing to encourage me. I love your devotions.

  91. Latoya says

    As I prepare to have my 4th child doubts and overwhelming thoughts of fear and inadequacy are creeping in. This morning as I read your encouraging words I have begun to have hope, and my faith in a present and all knowing God is overriding those negative feelings. I thank God for you today and I thank Him that He lead me to this blog as I’m sure I’ll need it in the months to come. Thank you for your encouraging words!

  92. Kimberly M. says

    Thank you for your words! This morning when I checked my email and read your post, I felt as if you were speaking directly to me. Motherhood is tough, and there are days when I think I just can’t do it. The whining, grumbling, and daily frustrations are sometimes so overwhelming that I want to scream. Thanks for sharing and reminding me that I’m not in this alone. And that it is okay.

  93. says

    I appreciated reading your words of comfort on the proverbs 31.org. It left me know the simple truth “He is there” Thank you for reminding me that our Savior is there if we reach out in prayer. I further went onto your website and loved your various resources. I have 2 children, whom my husband and I adopted – Both have been in our lives now for 13 + years while it is a challege most day, you see our daughter is intellectually challenged and our son is gifted.They are a blessing and the challenge of my life especially now that they are in the “Teenage years du du dun” LOL. My husband & I strive to run them to their various activities so their lives can be full of enrichment. Our daughter’s challenges leave me depleted most days with her lack of communication and her behavior issues. So needless to say I welcomed the reminder that God is there just reach out. Thank you Glynnis for the encouraging words.

  94. says

    About 20 years ago I was in the same position as you were, with three sons under the age of five. It was a challenging time, and as those boys grew (and God added another one to our family) life could feel chaotic at times. The three older boys are grown now and require much less of my time. I have begun volunteering and coordinating activities outside the home, and I realize that my strengths in these areas come from managing the household and all of the activities when the boys were young. You’re right, God doesn’t waste any His time.

  95. Julia says

    Thanks for the encouraging words. It is easy to get caught up in the “have to do it all” mentality. Sometimes we can just be, not do.

  96. Tracie says

    Thank you so much for sharing! Sometimes when I read your blog it is the “shot” in the arm I need to get through the next day and sometimes even hour!!

  97. Amanda W. says

    Thanks for the word of encouragement. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who thinks about “running away” sometimes, even though like you said I wouldn’t do it in a million years! I love my children. Happy Mother’s Day!

  98. Denise says

    I really enjoyed your post! Thank you! I pretty much lost it when I read the part where you stated that God knows how I feel and has seen my tears when I drop off my babies at childcare every morning before I go to work. Hardest thing I have to do every day! I put it all in God’s hands :) being a mom is very tough and we definitely need support. Hope to read more of your blog!

  99. Jennifer says

    Oh how I needed to hear this today!! My husband & I waited to have children until ‘later’ in life, we are now blessed with a 9 month old daughter whom we love very much. But I have to admit, the past few days I have been yearning for my ‘old’ life and I think my husband has too! We are still learning how to adjust to this new lifestyle and it’s definitely not easy. And on top of it all, I work full time and he is a stay at home dad. I work for an amazing Christian company and he is a wonderful dad but I think sometimes the role reversal puts some added stress on us. You’re post was a wonderful reminder of what we need to stay focused on and that we’re not alone. Thank you so much for sharing what is in your heart with us.

  100. Mary D says

    I just got off the phone with my daughter and then read this devotion before starting my work day. My daughter has 3 children. A boy 7 yrs old, Girl 5 yrs old and new blessing of another girl 2 weeks old today. I am praying for her for this summer as she will be a stay at home mom with the 3 kids under one roof. As I read this devotion I believe God lead me to your book “Always There”. I want to get that for her and pray she has a quiet moment here and there to read it. I believe she will need all the help she can get. I am a working grandma so I cannot be there everyday, but I am trying to schedule times of rescue for her or for the kids. Not sure who will need it the most.
    We are very blessed with this family and want her to learn to know how to turn to God in all things. But to know God has put people in her path to help her through.
    Thank you for sharing.

  101. says

    It has been a very hard job to be a mom, but the rewards definitely outweigh all the work. I have one son, I really couldn’t imagine having 3. But are girls any easier? Thank you Glynnis for your encouraging words for us “crazy” moms out there.

  102. Joy C. says

    Thanks for the reminders! While on the 7th load of laundry…and one more to go, the “time not wasted” part was encouraging! Thanks for sharing your heart – and your books!

  103. Alisha says

    What a great message to hear today. Some times we still want what seemed like a much simplier life before children. I’m the mother of two daughters, 32 and 21 and three small and active grandchildren that spend every moment they can at grandma’ s house. I have a three year old son at home and as you stated I can’t do what I use to and recover in a timely basis. In this season of life we are the encouragers and need some our selves. Thank You for your words.

  104. Amy B says

    This is the first time I’ve read the blog but certainly will be adding this to my devotional time. I have 2 small girls and am overwhelmed majority of the time. Thanks for putting things into the Godly perspective that I have so desperately needed. Thank you for sharing, and I look forward to reading your books! Parenting is so rewarding but there are days when I think I just can’t get it right…thank you so much!!!

  105. Kelly says

    I can totally relate to this today because it’s the first day dropping off my baby at daycare. And I know there will be tears.

  106. Carol says

    Thank you for the reminder there is no unproductive time..I have so many times struggled with guilt and condemnation…

  107. Ronda says

    Your blog post today really spoke to me….I KNOW I spend more time doing than being….And it’s never ever ending….one big thing ends just to move on to the next big thing — and soon enough, my week, my month, my year, my decade has passed me by….and I’m still striving. I so want to stop that cycle….thank you for your encouragement.

  108. Lindsay says

    Glynnis, this blog spoke right straight to my heart today. Especially because I am preparing to lead our last Mops meeting of the year tomorrow. Im printing this out and highlighting the part about time not wasted and sharing it with all of the ladies.
    That has been a prayer of mine recently– to know that Im doing what God wants and not wasting time because while my kids are toddlers there are times I feel that way! I watch my friends with their big careers and important committees and I’m working on my fifth “pee” accident of the day, thinking is this what God made me for? But He did! Thanks for the reminder. I hope my friends sign up for your blog. Your posts always hit the spot so to speak. Thanks!

  109. Allison says

    Overwhelmed, desperate, life passing me by.. Yup that’s me! I “knew” having children would change everything, but I didn’t really know what that meant. I read all the books talked to everyone I could, but motherhood is much deeper and more involved than anyone can write down or say. It is the best thing that has ever happened to me! I prayed for this baby for 6 years and I think back on those 6 years now and think wow! God knew what He was doing making us wait! I love how you said “there is no unproductive time in God’s economy.” that really spoke to me. We can waste time and years but they are not wasted in how God is working on us. No more catching up! I’m just going to start fresh with today! At least today I got out of my Jammie’s! It can only go up from here!

  110. Amber says

    Thank you for the encouragement…As a new mom who coaches 3 sports and teaches year round, and a husband who does the same, it turns in to everything coming down on top of me. I need to let go and let God! Priorities need to change in BOTH of us to be the productive parents we need to be. ONE DAY AT A TIME, SWEET JESUS!

  111. Joyce says

    I have forwarded today’s devotional to my precious daughter-in-law (technically my ex-daughter-in-law). As I read your words my heart broke for her knowing how alone she must feel sometimes having been divorced by my son, lost her job, and left to raise a three year old and a two year old alone (except for the every two week visitation thing). She has turned to God in a wonderful way as she allows Him to lead her in guiding those two precious babies to Him. She tries to keep them in a normal and loving Christian environment and not allow herself the luxury of self-pity. As the children’s grandparents, my husband and I try hard to help her and support her in her decisions. Your devotional today struck a chord with me and I thank God for your time and talent!

  112. April says

    This was such a great devotion….. I have 9 children with another on the way.. When I was younger I tried so hard to keep the house spotless make sure we all looked good got us where we needed to be even if it meant running all over the place. Now after a few years of parenting and many mistakes my number one goal is to teach my children to love Jesus. And by teaching them I mean showing them Jesus in me. I’m their biggest exam

  113. Cindy says

    Thank you for this today! Being a Mom is the greatest blessing ever even though it is the toughest job ever! God bless!

  114. Andrea N says

    Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us! My son just turned 13 months and I was feeling guilty or not doing all the same things I did before I had him. It’s is wonderful to Hear from women who have been and are dealin with the same thing!! Thank you!

  115. LRF says

    For the last few weeks I have been crying over my children (especially my youngest-3 yrs) & pleading with God to please help me & to reveal to me if I needed to do something different or if I had failed in some way. The reason for the tears & prayers are that my youngest is my best cuddle bug & is such a sweet boy in so many ways but just a few months ago after his 3rd b-day he totally turned into a strong willed, defiant & incredibly naughty child. Let’s just say that some of the things he has done are so gross & disgusting that it requires mega clean up with lots of sanitizer, showers & bleach. In fact he did this gross thing 1x a month or two ago, then 3x in the last 2 weeks. This is on top of being naughty during Sunday school & AWANA-teachers are struggling with him & so am I. he was even disobedient to grand parents which never happened before. Before what? I wish I knew. God knows that I have been getting angry over this burden as well as feeling guilt b/c I am afraid maybe I did something or didn’t do something. But I know that I have disciplined with love & that I love my son so much & I plead on his behalf to Almighty God. I had a good time of prayer last night & I repented of my attitude towards God. Even as I write this, my son just turned and bit the other one w/o any provocation on the ear so hard that the 5 yr old cried which is unusual for him. Well, may the Lord Jesus grant me love towards my son & yet also grant me the wisdom as to how to discipline & talk to him about what he’s done. I plead with Jesus every day for wisdom & I fight tears constantly. I am a member of MOPS & my husband is supportive but if anyone has any advice about what to do or where to find help for me & Hubby & our little one I would be glad to hear about it so we can consider our options. God will bring us through I believe He will but some days it is harder to remember this when I am in the midst of this season of life. Thanks again for the devotion it was tailor made for me today!

  116. says

    Thank you for great advice I would have loved many years ago. However, as I revisit those days, I do see that the Lord was preparing me for something. Today, I am reminded that I do not have to keep up with the things I thought was important. I am going to cut back on outside commitments and enjoy what I have right here at home.

  117. Carrie says

    I share with so many others the guilt of not being a “good enough” Mom.
    Praying the Lord leads us all in raising our children so they are a blessing unto him.

  118. Amy says

    Thank you so much for your devotion. I have been very overwelmed lately with homeschooling three of my four children (ages 14, 11, and 7) and taking care of my youngest who is two and trying to keep her out of everything as I teach. On top of this for the last three years my husband has been a full time Seminary student (attaining a degree so we can go on the mission field) and works full time so I take care of everything. I am also serving at church as a Sunday School teacher, and Awana leader as well as a part of a ministry outside church. There are times I just want to stay in bed because I don’t feel I can do it all, and if I do I can’t do it right! Those days I am really praying for the Lord’s strength to help me glorify Him with my thoughts, attitude, and words. I feel my children really have suffered in all this craziness because I have not been able to give them all of me, they have instead gotten a frazzled, crazy, busy mom. This devotion was great and really inspired me to be extra kind and loving even when my children are not being very loveable (like throwing a tantrum because they don’t want to do school work) and to slow down. My children need to be my ministry first! Thank you again!

  119. Shannon says

    Wasn’t it just yesterday I said to my husband, “I can’t believe God MEANS for me to stay here (in this job…running committees, planning retreats, taking on more and more).” And wasn’t it last week my husband said to me, “You’re going to have to give something up. You can’t take two master’s classes, work full time, go to choir practice, go to the gym and out with your friends, AND take care of the house, me and our four boys (14, 12, 5, 4)? Wow, Glynnis, wow. Blessings to all of you, and me. You God be the glory.

  120. Jenny says

    Your message today resonates with me! My children are getting older, too, and I often think of how I wasted too many days feeling overwhelmed. It truly was enough to just love them every day and do my best to speak, think, and act lovingly. However, feelings of being overwhelmed often guided my actions and words. I remember at night, lying in bed, thinking I was empty. My gas tank had run out. They had taken everything I had that day, and I had nothing left. When I started realizing that if I chose to focus on God, I would always be full, I began to have many more “full” and fewer “empty” days. It is not perfect, and it takes lots of reminding myself, but the effort put into turning to Him and not relying on my flawed self, pays off.

  121. Stacy B. says

    This is a great message and I thank you for writing it to share. The Lord especially used your notes in #3 to speak to my heart this morning…love it!

  122. mary says

    Thank you so much for your wisdom! I am a mom of a teen boy, so I am past those younger days too….but each season brings with it new and different struggles. Thank you for reminding me to live IN the preseny and to turn to God. God bless you!

  123. Kirsten says

    Thank you for the encouragement and the reminders. With a boy and 2 girls under 4, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and discouraged by the little things that never seem to end.

  124. says

    now, usually it’s LeAnn Rice who does this to me, by speaking the very words of God right into my heart. Today, Glynnis, it is YOU. I had three children with disabilities in the space of five years and was widowed before the youngest was 5 months old. It’s so easy to get caught up into what I need to do to lead our little family, that I must be reminded like this to just let Him lead. My worth is not in how busy we are and I forgot that lately. My worth is in His eyes alone. Thank you. I needed this course correction today.

  125. Sharon says

    Glynnis–your blog today touched my heart–but not related to being the mother of small children. I am in a different place in my life but your message today was universal–renegotiating expectations/not determining your worth by what you do/waiting on the Lord/guarding your heart/finding support. Thank you.

  126. Allison Kemp says

    I always love reading your blogs. Although my children are now grown (in fact by baby is graduating from college on Friday), I can relate to feeling overwhelmed. I am a grandmother now and plan on forwarding this to my daughter, who is at times overwhelmed! Thank you so much for your ministry.

  127. Brandie says

    Thank you for your message today. I also have three boys, they are 4, 2, and 1. Our life is crazy, and I needed this encouragement today!

  128. Mom of 2 says

    As a step-mom to an 11-year old girl and mom to a 2-year old boy, I certainly needed this encouragment today. I feel like I need to do it all ‘right’. Thank you for reminding me all I need to do is depend on God.

  129. Kimberly Poore says

    Glynnis, Thank you for sharing this. I have a 1 year old little girl, and am still learning how to handle being a wife, mother, working full-time, and somehow fitting ministry in there as well. I especially loved the comment of how “God sees every tear you cry after you take your baby to a caregiver on the way to work.” I experience this every week as I long to be with her during the day, but can’t right now. I read your blogs every morning when I get to work, and want to thank you for the encouragement you’ve given to me! Thank you for this ministry. -Kimberly

  130. Robin says

    Thank you for a great message! God alwaysputs in front of me what I need. I just need to seek it out and it is revealed. Like today, it would have been so easy to tell myself I dint time to read this post. I am glad I took the time!

  131. Becky L says

    Just found out we are expecting our third within 4 years!! Ahh! Thank you for the encouragement :)

  132. Kelly Widener says

    It’s so funny how the lord works. I Am a new mom to 4 week old
    Twins. And boy is it the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. Yesterday was a rough day and I longed for my “old life.” and of course then felt such a sense of guilty for feeling this way. Luckily, I’m in an amazing small group at my church that has 4 other moms. I was able to share my hard day with them and ask for prayers. Funny enough they all responded with words very similar to yours. I’m so thankful that I’m surrounded by godly women that let me know my feelings are normal and to keep seeking the Lord in these hard times.

    Thank you for your post. I love to see the lord at work, especially when we ask for it!

  133. Jennifer M says

    Thank you so much!! I’ve been struggling so much these last couple of weeks with exactly what you have spoken on today. I have three small childre, a full-time job, and a very chaotic life right now and struggle to keep going. Your words and advice are so encouraging!!

  134. Becky R says

    Thank you for sharing. Being a mom is hard and its encouraging to know that other moms struggle just as I do.

  135. Linda says

    I read this today through tears. It was exactly what I needed! I am mother of 3 children. When I went back to work after my second child, I fought through tears and depression and thought, “no one knows how hard this is!”. During this struggle, I was gently reminded by the Lord that He too knows exactly how we feel, He gave up his Son on the Cross! I just loved this post today. Thank you so much for sharing and Happy Mother’s Day to you Glynnis.

  136. Valerie says

    Thank you for your words of encouragement. My children are older now but the problems are no less challenging than when they were young. Thank you for reminding me what a great God I have and how I can depend on Him for all I need to make it through those tough days.

  137. Breinny Mosella says

    God has been working on my heart during te last few weeks on precisely this issue! How timely your devotional is for me! But isn’t God just so good like that? I attended a women’s retreat with my church about 3 weeks ago, and my prayer for the weekend was asking the Lord to show me how I can experience more joy and peace in my life on a regular and continual basis. He revealed to me how I have been trying to be everything to everyone, and that’s not my callig at all! Instead, He’s been faithfully showing me what to do, what to do another time, and what to just let go of completely because no one actually needs to be doing it at all! Lol! This past weekend He nudged me about how I have been trying to compartmentalize my 4-year old and my ministry and other parts of my life, and that this is not honoring my role as a mother, or my daughter. I am grateful for this divine truth so that I can make adjustments now and not live with years of regret!! Thank you, Sister, for your transparency so that we can also see how to grow!

  138. Lucinda says

    What a timely msg, I have been struggling with an identity crisis for months of what am I supposed to do, what calling does the Lord have for me, what is His plan for all the things I have experienced recently. I can relate to feeling like a failure when not being able to do it all perfectly. Thank you for your honesty and transparency.

    In Christ,

    Lucinda

  139. Patty says

    Thank you for the reminder that my worth and value comes from who I am in Christ, not in what kind of mother I am.

  140. whitney says

    I read your devotion today and it really touched me. Then I read your blog today and even more so it stood out to me. I thought “I would be this mom” still continuing to say “yes” despite desperately wanting to say “no.” I am pregnant now with our first child and will take your advice to heart when the time comes (I will try to at least!).

  141. Melanie McKinley says

    Thank you for your insight. I have struggled in this area for years. Most days I don’t think I will ever get it together and feel like a total failure. I know with God’s redeeming love all things are possible. I don’t want to be supermom. I just want to be a mom.

  142. Michelle T. says

    Wow. So much of what was said in both Proverbs 31 and this devotional spoke to my heart. Please put me in the drawing. I would very much appreciate getting some help for me and my kids. Thanks.

  143. says

    Our 16 year old passed out and hit his head after running a track event last week. Needless to say, these past several days have been anxious and full of prayer. Thanks for the reminders. Just what I needed today.

  144. says

    I was a young mom of 2 boys that are now 17 and 21. Had I written a message to my young self..I believe it would have said the same thing. Us moms spend so much time trying to get everything in that we think should be done..all the while missing out. Thanks for the devotional today..I hope ALL women read this and know..they are enough. :)

  145. Leanne says

    Thank you for your words today. My three boys are 4, 8 and 9 (turning 10 in a few days – Wow, double digits!). I also babysit two boys aged 2 and almost 2 while my older boys are in school. Lately I’ve been feeling like I need a vacation more than ever before. Thankfully, my husband has meetings out of town next week and he’s taking me…two entire days all by myself, and evenings for just the two of us when his meetings are over. I can’t wait! Thanks to God for arranging a vacation just when I need it.

  146. Katrina Arbuckle says

    Thanks for this blog!!! I have a son who is 15 and a daughter who is 13, and the past couple years with my son have been so hard. Just when I thought I had the parenting thing down pat (ages 7-12), the kids became teens and it feels overwhelming again. With this being mother’s day week, I am feeling very unappreciated. I think that’s one main reason why “going back to your old life” seems appealing…because as women we long for affirmation and appreciation. I want to honor my mom and mother-in-law, but sometimes I want to stop all the craziness of traveling to see them (on an already busy weekend following several busy weekends in a row) and just scream, “What about me?! I’m a mom too!” Is this selfish?

  147. Lisa says

    Thank you so much for this message!! I really needed it! I have a 4 year old and 17 month old and I also do daycare in my home. I feel like I am trying to accomplish the world somedays and it is so exhausting!! Thank you!

  148. says

    A MOTHER OF grown children (19,22,16) I still find myself in desperate situations but FAITH is what carries me. I can relate to the young Mama’s and I know and BELIEVE FAITH brought me through it. Thanks for you message.

  149. Kathryn P says

    Boy, was this a mirror being held up to me this morning! I’m a mother of 6yo g/b/b triplets who will soon be 7. First grade has been just the latest “adventure” for us and “overwhelmed” has been the best description I’ve had for my life for about the last three years. But it’s a description I’ve kept to myself, not even sharing it with my husband, barely sharing with God. Even though I know that’s what my prayers have really been about. Thank you for the advice list! It hits home and echoes some recent thoughts I’ve had and encouragement that has come my way. I see now how God has been speaking these truths to me. With school ending soon, I have time to make some changes now to reduce my stress as much as possible before my tornados are home full time! :-)

  150. Christina says

    Thank you for this post. It’s like you were sitting with my husband and I while I “broke down” this weekend…It’s so hard to be satisfied and understand your significance while so many around you are giving the appearance of perfection in the midst of “having it all”.

  151. Ruth says

    Thank you so much for sharing openly. With three small children 5 and under I really needed to hear this today.

  152. Terri says

    I too wish I could go back 18 years (for me) and truly enjoy some of those moments. I was one of those also, thinking everything had to be perfect….clean house…..cute little girls dressed just so….I missed so much!!
    I now try to see past all that, even though it’s still hard, just my personality, but have slowly learned the mess is not going anywhere, it will be there waiting on you….ENJOY while you can!!

  153. Lisa Nageer says

    Wow! This hit a chord, but in a good way. I went 35 years with no kids. I was blessed with a great 5 year old stepson and had two more boys all in a matter of 4 years. They’re now 11, 4, and almost 2. My 11 year old is still very sweet, but mad at me because he’s 11 and can be. I can do nothing right by him and tend to feel very unappreciated. I am a very involved “second mom”. This stage is very challenging and probably more so because of the two homes. I often struggle with trying so hard to make that relationship work that my 2 little boys tend to feel the brunt. Which I’m sure is the case even in biological 11 year old relationships. At any rate your article reminded me to have some patience and grace. Thank you for sharing!

  154. Cheryl P says

    This is exactly what I needed to hear. I have a 14 yr. old son who is getting ready to be 15 in a couple of months. I am finding myself in so many desperate situations with him. I feel like giving up. I know that I can’t but I am so beaten down. Please pray for my son and the choices he makes. I pray for God’s will in his life. But most importantly I pray that God will touch my son’s heart and give him Godly wisdom as he makes decisions in his life. I pray for wisdom for myself that I may know how to teach and instruct my son on how to grow into a Godly young man.

  155. Lindsay Holder says

    Thank you for reminding me that I’m not the “only” mom that feels this way at times. This was very much needed today! :)

  156. Monica says

    This is exactly what my friends and I have been discussing. We find ourselves over scheduling ourselves, never mind the kids activities, and then we all suffer because we haven’t taken the time to really seek what God wants us to do. We end up sacrificing the “best” at the altar of the “good”. Thank you for reminding us what is important.

  157. Christy Blackburn says

    I only have 1 child and some days seem I am completely overwhelmed. Of course, she is a 16 year old girl. That alone says plenty. She has accepted Christ as her Savior, but is surrounded by the ways of the world. We pray over her and with her and thank God for your devotionals every day!!!!! God bless You and all the mother’s out there this Mother’s Day!!!!

  158. Diane says

    Thanks for the encouraging words this morning. I often feel overwhelmed with my 16 year old and 10 year old. Thanks for the reminder that God is always teaching us something.

  159. Melissa says

    Sometimes I feel like I am the only mom who feels like they are drowning!I’m a single mom to four kids, two who have special circumstances, and it can be so overwhelming. Thanks for reminding me that I’m not a failure if I’m not a perfect mom, and that I don’t struggle alone.

  160. Ericka Tingley says

    Thanks so much for your devotion today. It reminds me that I am human and because I have the feelings and frustrations I have as a stay at home mom it is ok and I am not alone. Thank you for reminding me to give it all to God and he will better my paths. I think you have encouraged me to go out there and find a MOPS group because and socialize with others like me. Thanks so much and God Bless.

  161. Dawn G says

    It is like you are talking about my life! When reading your post today I found myself smiling, laughing, and crying. I have found myself many days just wanting to go someplace and do nothing in the quiet! I am working of looking to God to help me wiht many of my low times. Thank you for your words of encouragement today! I hope you and everyone reading has a wonderful and very blessed Mother’s Day!

  162. Lisa says

    As a mom whose mothering has just gone on and on (4 kids, age 18, 17, 8 and 3 … )seeing my older kids friends parents moving on in their life and getting so much more connected to who they are and less of the chaos and upheaval of little kids… here I am at 45 with a little one.. feeling so imcompatant and hoping someday I can get my act together.. it was an encouraging note.

    Thank you for that.

    Lisa

  163. Carrie says

    It was so encouraging to read your blog and devotional today. I’ve had 3 boys in 5 years and God has called us to be a homeschooling family as well. Sometimes I get so overwhelmed and feel like I’m the only one. Thanks for the uplifting words!

  164. Jessica says

    Yep this was a answered prayer! I have been struggling and feeling defeated and praying for God to show me another way. Thanks so much for the needed encouragement and support!

  165. Dana says

    Oh this message resonnated so much today! Thank you for sharing these wise words of encouraged. Many Blessings!

  166. Stephanie says

    I appreciate the list that you posted on your blog today.

    Devotionals for Moms are great. I did not know about this one.

  167. says

    Thank you so much for your honesty. I also had 3 children in less than 5 years- and can relate to everything you wrote!! Your encouragement is a blessing to many. Happy Mother’s Day & God bless you!

  168. lorina says

    i am a young mother 22 years old. i have a 4 month old son. he has so many stomach problems. acid reflux disease. it is so hard to handle when he is constantly screaming when he has a belly ache. and all the other problems in my life on top of taking care of my son. i have no job. the father has no job. we are living with the father’s parents and they are buying the diapers and wipes and bath wash and lotion. we have been together almost 3 years. we both have disabilities. i have add and executive dysfunction, he has bipolar manic depressive disorder, adhd. he has a 2 year old son. but he does not have custody of him. then we have joseph we both have custody of him. but the dad is always gone out with friends, trying to find metal to scrap for money to provide for us. but also treating me and the baby like he does not care about us. always gone everyday every 5 minutes like he cannot stand to be around us. with all these trials and tribulations we have lost our faith and belief in god. where is he? why is not he helping us? why are we going through this? i just need friends that are going through the same thing we are going through. like another godly couple. to help us through this with accountabilty and understanding. i thank you so much for this blog and devotion. i know how hard it is. his older son has many bad disabilities and our son that we have together; i do not know what kind of disabilities he will have. i greatly appreciate this blog, it lets me know that i am not the only one going through this.
    thanks,
    lorina allen

  169. Margaret says

    Thanks for this:
    ” Your worth is found in who you are in Christ. You don’t have to do anything. Just be.”

  170. Judy Holland says

    I enjoyed your post today. We get caught up in “living” and time flies an before you realize it your children are grown. As did with me. My Mom told me ” take time to smell the roses”. I was always too tired to “smell the roses” but now I wish I had. But God is faithful to help through those years. Now I am older and kids are grown and I am proud of who they are. But there are a lot of things about their childhood I don’remember. I guess cause I lived in a rush. But God will be faithful to us if we are faithful to him!

  171. Christi says

    I appreciate your honesty and encouragement. Your blog, devotions and encouragement are such a blessing in my life!

  172. Julia Pinto says

    Thank you for sharing what we all feel, as a mother of 3, or as I call them 3 only children 12, 6 and 3 and all girls I understand what your feeling. We run all day and our husband doesn’t understand why we feel exhausted or wants to go bed early. I am grateful God sent us this wonderful woman to help us since I have to work full time.
    I am reminded that is why we need strong women friend who have faith.

  173. Beth Kothe says

    A friend recently told me that when you are a parent, the days are long and the years are short. My kids are now 28,25, 21 & 18. I am a grandma of two precious babies. The things that matter now are so much different than 20 years ago because Jesus has changed my heart. I can’t do it all over again for my kids but I can model a new life for them as a parent.

  174. Julie says

    This was great today! Just what I needed. I have a son 18 and daughter 13 and possibly going to adopt my niece who is a year old tomorrow. I have mixed emotions, of starting that hard part of life with a small child all over again. However, I love her so much! and she needs a Christian home. This topic today, really helps to put some things into perspective :) Thank you for being so REAL, with your devotions! God Bless

  175. Pam C says

    Loved your words of wisdom today! I have 3 daughters, and they are all teens to 20′s now. But as I look back over the years of raising them (and I’m convinced that someone stole some of those years since it all is going by WAY too fast!), I know without a doubt that being a mother is the best, yet hardest job in the world! There are days of despair, and there are days of joy! Days when you think you’ll never be able to get a shower and get dressed before 5pm again, and days when it just all falls into place. But if I had it to do all over again, I wouldn’t hesitate for a second! And I know I never would have made it through without God’s presence in my life, and falling to my knees in His presence daily! He gave the strength then, and still gives me the strength now, that I need each day to make it through. Happy Mother’s Day everyone! :)

  176. says

    Thanks so much for the encouragement. It is always a great reminder that we don’t have to be perfect women and mothers, even though that is what the world expects. As a mom of 6, there are days when my life (and house) looks so much less than perfect. The more I show that to other women, the more open our relationships have become and I have made some wonderful friends through that openness. I rely heavily on my heavenly Father to get me through each day and am blessed by daily devotionals that seem to come at just the right time!

  177. Sudea says

    Talk about the right timing! After crawling into bed after the 3rd feeding around six a.m. (PST)–I have a 8.5 month sweet baby girl I thought, “I can snooze for thirty more minutes,” but the alarm came on I am became so upset. I wasn’t ready to wake up. My husband asked if I was okay and I told him I was so tired. I am thankful he knows me; I came downstairs and found my lunch packed and breakfast made. I need help even when I am not ready to ask for it and I only have one child! :)

  178. Alyson Cordle says

    Thank you to a God, who saw my desperation today, and showed up and said I’m still here! Thank you for your encouragement today.

  179. Jess says

    I’m not a mother yet, but I am so glad to read this now, when I can save it and try to remember your words of wisdom and encouragement for the future.

  180. Jennifer says

    Thank you for your post today. I had a hot moment with my biological son this morning as his time frame didn’t match the one I had expected today when getting ready for school. We also just received a infant child into our home as we become licensed for foster care. It has been a big transition for us and I have been feeling quite overwhelmed the last few days as my sleep is dramatically different than it was before the baby got here. We love to be able to help the child out in this time of need and provide the love and safety that he needs. Please say a little prayer for us in this adjustment period and Thank you for reminding me that God knows how I feel when I’m drained and when I get upset.

  181. says

    Thank you so much for all the encouragement! I found you through Proverbs 31 devotionals. As I read your words, it felt as if you were talking for me. I catch myself not feeling like I measure up way too often. As you know that in turn brings on the impatience, anger, and self doubt. Being a mommy is all that I have ever wanted to be. I had no idea it would take so much “help” to stay focused and centered in my faith and parenting. MOPS has been a huge benefit in my life! Thank you again!

  182. Karen says

    Thank you for today’s post. It is a great reminder in many areas related to motherhood! Oh how God loves us, even when we are overwhelmed!

  183. Loralee says

    God is so amazing. I was praying before I sat down in front of the computer “God help me, I have so much that needs to be accomplished and I don’t know how I will get it all done.” I looked at my cluttered kitchen counter and was overwhelmed at all the things that need doing. I especially loved the part about there is no unproductive time in God’s economy. I appreciate your blog so much! Thank you!

  184. Jenny says

    Your words really hit home today. We moms need the reminder to give ourselves some grace and mercy. With 4 children at home, the feelings of inadequacy often surface for me on the days when their behavior is less than desireable and it feels like everthing I’m trying to teach them is being forgotten. I have to remember that just as I am imperfect, they are imperfect. We’re all “works in progress.”

    God bless you in your ministry – thanks for sharing this message today!

  185. Kelly W says

    “3) There is no unproductive time in God’s economy. What seems like wasted years, aren’t. God is always doing something, teaching you something, preparing you for something. If you miss what God has put in front of you right now, you won’t be ready for the next thing when the time is right.”

    This touched me so much today. I’m feeling like a waste…like my life is a waste…and that I have no reason to push on. I keep trying to understand why I am where I am. I’m so frustrated but I will keep on keeping on.

  186. Jennifer says

    Mothering is the hardest job I’ve ever loved! Thank you for reminding us that no moment is wasted in God’s sight. Wiping a runny nose for the tenth time, folding the millionth load of laundry, reading a book to your babies…all of this matters! And God is honored by what we do. Thanks for the reminder!

  187. Meg Trauth says

    Thank you for this blog post…It is exactly what I needed to hear. I have been avoiding going to God over many emotions and I appreciated your encouragement. Meg

  188. Amanda R. says

    God’s perfect timing! I really needed this today, after the events in my life yesterday. Thank you so much for what you do!

  189. says

    I love the topic for today, especially since I have 3 boys myself (3, 1, and a newborn). It’s definitely a trying time and I’m realizing that I’m needing to spend more time praying for his guidance than I ever thought. Thank you so much, this really touched me today!

  190. Traci says

    WOW, what perfect timing. I just hung up the phone from venting to someone about a situation – and then I opened up my email & read this devotional & was smacked between the eyes as I was reminded that I should have submitted my complaining thoughts to The Lord, instead of venting to someone who can’t do anything about the situation! Thank you for your ministry!

  191. Diane Bare says

    Thank you for your encouragement! I am a mother of 4 girls, 10, 5 and twin 2 1/2 yos. Most days I feel lost in my parenting.

  192. michelle h says

    thanks for the encouragement! it’s hard to remember some days that I spent years praying for kids! :)

  193. says

    Your message really spoke to me today. I am a mother of 3 girls…Madison will be 8 on the 29th, Molly is 6, and McKenzie is 4. I also have a little boy, Eli, who will be 3 on the 14th. They are all a blessing. I know because my husband and I lost 3 babies before we even had our first. We had a trying time with my last pregnancy when I was hospitalized for over 20 days and learned that our soon to be boy has Down syndrome. We prayed so much and relied on God and our family, friends, and most of all our church family. We were so blessed with all the help and support and prayers through that rough time. God held us through some challenging times but we’re OK. I’m reminded of the proverb…”It takes a village to raise a child.” Our church family have been there and continue to be there for our family. Jeremiah 29:11 held us through and we rely on it always…”For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
    Thank you for your ministry.

  194. Staci says

    Thank you so much for this message, I only wish I had heard it many years ago, as well. My children are grown now, but I am going to pass this on to my daughter, who is a single mama. She does a GREAT job, but I remember how overwhelming it can all be and I wasn’t doing it by myself. So I think it will be great encouragement for her to hear your message.

  195. Sarah says

    I was asking God in my quiet time if He would send some encouragement my way today and that I would know He knew right where I was at today and that I wanted Him to show Himself to me today. The next thing I did was check my e-mail and read the Proverbs 31 devotional and as I read your devotional the tears started flowing. I got on my knees and prayed the prayer-that you posted-back to God. It was a great reminder to me to seek Him for guidance and to lead me to what I need for my life. Thanks for blessing my life today. Much love, Sarah

  196. Vonnie Kronk says

    Thank you for your encouragement! I need to be reminded every single day to turn to God first when I feel overwhelmed.

  197. Dorothy says

    Thanks! Parenting can be overwhelming as you put pressure on yourself to do it “right”. We must remember on a moment to moment basis the God is in control!

  198. Jennifer says

    Thanks for this post today. So true and helpful. What mom hasn’t felt desperation? We are sometimes our own worst enemy!

  199. Kayla says

    Thanks for the encouragement! Everyday seems to bring more challenges, even when you have yet to mount the ones from previous days. This is exactly what I needed today.

  200. Nicole Scarcelli says

    Thank you so much for this post! It is something I really needed at this time! I have been feeling very desperate lately!

  201. Kristina says

    Thank you so much for this post. It is exactly what I feel a lot. I have a four and two year old, and I am a control freak and a perfectionist. I struggle some times with letting go and just being…actually, I struggle a lot with that. I know that I don’t need to be perfect, no one is, but I feel like if I don’t try to the point of exhaustion, I’m a failure in everyone’s mind. My mom sent me this post as she is my rock in trying to get me to relax and enjoy the bountiful gifts I have more. It’s been a really tough year for me with many challenges, and many blessings, but the more I read how other moms feel and struggle like I do, the more I feel like I can admit it out loud and receive the help I need.

  202. Rita H. says

    This is great advice to your former self and any Mom who needs it today! Thanks so much for your blog I really enjoy your posts. I have found that as my children have gotten older their trials are much more significant. The impact of their decisions are far greater. Keep blogging!

  203. says

    Moms are People too!
    Thanks for this God-inspired advice!
    Sure wish I had it when I was mothering two small children and yet, I am so thankful for the older women GOD brought into my life to help me along the way. Godly mentors truly make all the difference in our worlds.
    Blessings to you and yours~

    Jess

  204. Elaine says

    Motherhood definitely is the hardest job I’ve ever had, and even now with my sons being 22 and 19, it is still tough – probably even tougher. As they go through changes in their lives with jobs, studies, and relationships, it complcates matters. It becomes so difficult to convince them that I really do care, and that I do what I do out of love rather than interfering. Oh, the wisdom needed! I pray daily for guidance in what I feel, say, and do.

  205. Karen R says

    Thank you so much for your post today. I often feel like such a failure as a mom and am so lost. My children are all adults now and the day to day struggle has finally ceased but our relationships need repair and rebuilding. I am praying for the wisdom and the guidance needed, and for God to make this happen. God is good, I know He has a plan in the midst of this storm. I know there is one or more lessons here for everyone involved. Your post today helped me refocus and for that I am grateful.

  206. Laura says

    Even though I don’t have children, I really liked this quote: “Your value isn’t found in your accomplishments because things never stay accomplished. Your worth is found in who you are in Christ.”

    How quickly we can forget (mothers and those who don’t have children yet) how important we are in the eyes of Jesus!

  207. Michelle says

    This was just the reminder I needed today as I have been feeling overwhelmed trying to balance work, family, and everything else. While I did not explode, I was complaing to my teen daughter about being exhausted from running everywhere on the weekends. Then a little voice said, “how does that make her feel?” While I did not direct my complaints to her specificially, how did it make her feel? I apologized, told her I loved her and that if what I said made her feel like an impositon, I did not mean too! Seeking God first in all things…thank you for your encouragement!

  208. Schani says

    I’m a new mommy recently and your honest sharing is really encouraging. There are times I miss my life before baby and feel bad about it. Your godly advice is so timely ! Thank you for delivering God’s wisdom to mommies !! Blessings to you.

  209. Tia says

    I am a first time mom of a 2 year old little girl. I find myself struggling to find time to spend with my family after working a full-time job and a direct sales business on the side. My ah-ha moment was when my little girl preferred her child care teacher over me. Talk about my world crushing down! I never knew my heart could hurt so much. After that, I decided to ask God to mold my husband and I into great parents. We may not be perfect parents, however we have a perfect Heavenly Father!

  210. heather says

    Love the reminder of #2, “Your worth is found in who you are in Christ.” I often find myself judging myself b/c of what I do or don’t do. It’s such a blessing to know that Christ doesn’t judge me that way!! I’m glad to be His and be loved unconditionally!

  211. Marcie says

    So thankful for your blog today. Even when our kids get older we can still be overwhelmed. My son has high functioning aspergers and even though he has done really well he will always struggle in some areas. He is 19 this month but we feel in some ways he is about 14. He will b living with us for awhile. God reminds me there is no set time limit to parenting our children. I have to be careful and not compare myself to other families. We are all different. Thank you for encouraging all of us to grasp the reality of our lives now and be Proud of being a mother. Thankful we can simplify our lives and not have to do it all. Hope you have a wonderful mothers day

  212. Audra says

    As I read this post today, I am blessed that you have just the right words I needed this morning. I am blessed that I dont have to be alone because I have been reminded that God puts precious people in my life to remind me that help is here. When I ask God for help, which is usually about 80 times a day, it amazes me that way He shows up.

    You are consistenly a beacon of light for me, and as I read here, to countless others!

    Thanks for everything you share-

  213. Shannon says

    IWow good to know someone else has survived 3 boys that close together. After my day yesterday I was beginning to wonder.

  214. Carissa D. Huffman says

    I never expected my life to be able to be the same–I was 40 when I gave birth to my son, so maybe that helped me to have a bit more realistic expectations. I don’t mind that we go to see the Wiggles or the Go Fish guys for our concert outings these days (Go Fish is a COOL Christian kids band whose music is actually very good) instead of seeing Michael Buble or Daughtry. I am enjoying learning about the characters in kids’ programs like Lazy Town, Super Why, and now, Justin Time. Staying home more doesn’t bother me. I do work full time, so I am not stuck in kiddieland permanently like the moms who stay at home.

    I get overwhelmed with the huge number of little things to juggle. I already have an overcluttering issue, and now, I have one more person’s stuff to try to add to the mix. I am really BAD about the housework–the flesh is indeed weak here. I don’t get to do things like shower, wash my hair or get a haircut as often as I would like to–I am learning to live with that.

    I worry about our precarious financial situation. We have still really never gotten caught up for the many months my husband was unemployed nearly 10 years ago, so I worry about how we can continue to afford daycare. I cannot afford to stay home–that isn’t at all viable.

    I worry about continuing to pay for the extras that I want my son to have–swim lessons (for safety), sports (for health), possibly music lessons (he is very musically inclined already), going to museums, zoos (they all cost money, either for memberships, or per visit), even going to visit his paternal relatives (in Colorado) at least once a year.

    We are paying our bills now, yes, but there is not a lot of wiggle room. We are thankful for our tax return–we would not be able to do anything without drawing from that during the year. This year, the bulk of that was used to fence our yard. We had to dip into our daycare fund to fix our furnace/AC unit. My parents kicked in $700 to pay for a swing set. We aren’t making much headway on our debt–we are just kind of cruising.

    AND, I feel God calling me to add to my family–more stuff, more time, more money…it does scare me a little.

    This motherhood thing ain’t easy, is it?? :)

    Blessings!
    Carissa from eastern Iowa

  215. Remedios Tabernero says

    Thanks for your encouragement today. I am close to being 60 years, but sometimes I have question in my mind, whether are there things that I had left out that I should have done in my life? Your lesson #3 just spoken to me, which is true. In God’s economy, there’s no wasted life. I might have not accomplished much as a career woman, but I thank God for His grace that allowed me to see the returns of my investments in my children’s lives. I have two married sons, who are now great husbands and fathers who walk closely with our God. I have two more single son and daughter whom I am really thankful of to God. Being a mother is the greatest and most noble career that a woman can ever have. Raising children to walk closely and obediently to God is truly rewarding.
    Blessings to you and your ministries,
    Remy

  216. Michelle says

    Thank you, Glynnis for sharing your story and using God’s word to reinforce what I already knew in my heart, but was being drowned out by the mind – thoughts that weren’t productive and only made me feel worse. I just prayed for all you moms out there that the message Glynnis shared with us realigns our hearts toward Jesus and that we know how special we are and Jesus is all we need. Happy Mother’s Day to all of you.

  217. Brigit Piercy says

    This was awesome. Thanks for being willing to be honest give those of us still in those younger years the encourage and Godly advice we need!

  218. Judy says

    This is so comforting! Although I know it isn’t true, In the back of my mind I always wonder if I’m the only one it’s so hard for, the only one who feels that maybe I just wasn’t cut out for this parenting thing. Why would I be blessed with these 2 little lives in my care when I can’t seem to do things right? When I raise my voice too often? When sometimes I just yearn for peace in my house and freedom for myself? And then it hurts just to realize how much I love them and how important they are to me (which I often realize when they are sleeping angels and it’s finally quiet enough to hear myself think – LOL!)

  219. says

    I am on round two with raising children. My youngest used to be my my 17 year old. We were told by the Lord to adopt our grandsons. Now they are 15 months and 26 months. This is a challenge in that we are in our 50′s and the first round we had children that were almost 5 years apart.

    These two little boys are much different in personality than my first two, went through trauma, and also have me really learning as I go along how to manage two boys so close in age and still give my 17 year old time.

    I love the boys but don’t have the same energy as my 30′s. But, I know now that I am only to do what the Lord tells me to do. Nothing else. It is challenging enough. I am grieving for my prodigal daughter, and for the empty nest and my plans that I had when my youngest went to school. But, I realize it is my plans.

    This devotional spoke to me so much. But, it is the Lord’s assurance to me that He has me right where He wants me. And I needed that today.

    Blessings

  220. dianne says

    Thanks Glynnis for your encouragement. It’s good to know I’m not the only one who finds parenting a challenge. God bless you and Happy Mother’s Day.

  221. Cheramy says

    cant tell you how God ministered to my heart through your words of encouragement today. Thank you so very, very much. Especially the paragraph on life passing by..the feeling of wasted time. So healing to hear God “shout” at me that there are NO wasted moments… He is in them all, using them, using me in all the many mess ups. Praise Him. Thank you…

  222. Rebecca Portteus says

    Hello! This spoke right to me in my situation today!!!! I too am raising three young boys and I am having some major difficulties adjusting to my new normal. I feel like I should be doing more! Thank you for the blog posts today.

  223. Sheryl G says

    It always amazes me how lonely I feel when I cannot seem to measure up. Up to what and who… I know I am not alone… I wish we could share more as moms. I wish we did not measure ourselves by what we do. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insight. I am going to pass this on to too moms who I believe need encouragement today. Blessings

  224. Melody says

    This mother’s day is such a special day for me. I will and am declaring that I have fallen in love with my kiddos. I have total unconditional love for them. A few years ago I had a mental breakdown and was hospitalized. I hated being a wife and mother. I knew that this was one of Satan’s lies and I needed extra help so I checked myself in. After a two week stay and many hard counseling get sessions and many hard lessons on how to cope with my kids I totally love them. God was always with me through the whole ordeal. I still feel guilty,type for the years that I. Wasn’t the mother I am today but I. Praise God that he gave me the wisdom and insight to seek out help. I was surrounded by two great Christian women In And out of the hospital. I just want to say that many moms and family didn’t understand my decision for hospitalizations or counseling, but i had a decision to make leave my kids without a mom or sacrifice and become a better mom. Mom’s if you are struggling today please know that it’s okay to get help. It’s okay to take care of yourself for the sake of you and your kiddos. I praise God for where he has brought me and is bringing me. Happy Mothers day my friends.

    • Glynnis says

      Melody, I’m so happy you posted a comment today. I wish everyone could read this. And I support you completely for doing whatever you had to do to help yourself.

      A few years ago a friend of mine, and the mother of two small children, took her life. Before it happened we talked and prayed together and she just couldn’t see the truth about her worth. She sincerely thought her children would be better off without her. We all believed she was getting help and were devastated when she committed suicide.

      Thank you for being honest and open. I’m praying God brings women who need to read this.

      Happy Mother’s Day to you, dear sister.

  225. Valari A. says

    I have been struggling with this topic to the point of physical illness. Thank you for this post. I am really wanting to live our lives in a new way that we can enjoy life and I can find true happiness in my kids growing up. I am just taking it day by day.

  226. Leslie S. says

    I barely have time to comment but I needed to hear that I need to stop trying to be the person I was before my child arrived. People think because I’m 40 that I have more patience now than before but I don’t and I am more set in my ways now. I’m so frustrated too because my 14 month old doesn’t want to be anywhere but by my side and rarely wants to take a nap. I am sad and feel like God isnt hearing my cries.

  227. Paula says

    Thank you for your words today….I feel like you were writing for me. I have a 12 year old son with multiple disabilities, one of which is bipolar disorder. We’re in a crisis mode again, changing medications and trying to care for him the only way we know how, with love and LOTS of prayer. It’s so hard to make decisions when you have no answers. Thank you for reminding me that He sees my tears, He knows my desperate heart, and He cares. God Bless!

  228. Kellie says

    I really needed this blog today. I am constantly struggling with myself about getting upset with my boys and this blog was a great reminder that God knows what is in my heart. Thank you!

  229. Michele says

    Thanks for the great advice. I try to go it alone. I love the line at the beginning, “All the whining, crying and complaining … and then there were the children …that is so me. I find it helps when I have my time with the Lord first, but it doesn’t always work out for me to do that. Thanks again!
    Blessings,

  230. says

    Thank you for this post… We have a child with attachment disorder. We adopted her at 2 years old. It has been 7 years. It is so very hard most days. I have 2 other childdren (home grown). So they are 9, 9 and 11… I think I could use this book. :) I lost my Dad 2 days after Christmas, and we have had so many other trials this year!

    Thank you again. The prayer alone brought me to tears. And the reminder of the bleeding woman… that was me 7 years ago when my daugther first broke me and truly brought me to relationship with Christ.

  231. Betsy Coleman says

    Thank you so much Glynnis for your blog and your devotion on Words of Encouragement. I have raised 3 children and I am now raising 2 of my grandchildren. This blog has helped me so much and also hearing everyones comments. Sometimes when our back is against the wall we can make hasty decisions before praying and getting in Gods Word.

  232. Jennifer says

    Thank you for your encouragement! I am at that overwhelmed place and have been for a looong time! I needed to be reminded to breathe and not expect to do everything perfectly or alone!

  233. Jules says

    Wow – you mean I’m not the only one who feels like running away from home?? lol this is very inspiring and uplifting. Thank you and may God continue to bless you!

  234. Dara Herman says

    As I sit here, still in my jammies, I feel much better having read this. I am in the midst of a “I own the world” 3 year old and a “I am your world” 2 month old.
    What Glynnis shared is a window to my current life and struggle to figure out who i am now, who i want to be, and how I want to be remembered by my boys.

  235. Michelle H says

    Thank you for the reminder that I can’t do it all! I have been a stay home mom for almost a year know and my house looks like a tornado went through it at times. I get so frustrated now that I am home looking at it all on why no one can pick up after themselves.. But I know when I was working full time and doing all of the cooking and cleaning I was much more frustrated then then I am now. I know that I am not perfect and my family also =) I know times are going to get more challenging with my oldest son soon to be a teenager. I just have to remember to fully rely on God for all of my needs and pray about everything! God Bless you for your wonderful and encouraging words!

  236. Dian says

    Wonderful post! I so wish I’d read this type of devotional when I was a brand new mother. It would have definitely saved me a lot of heartache and a few tears along the way. Thanks to you, and the way you’re allowing God to use you, mothers (new and more matured) will be able see and understand this difficult thing called motherhood a little more clearly now.

  237. Toya says

    As usual your right on time with the message. I prayed all the way to the school and work this morning because my lovely daughter had my emotions at a boiling point, as she does every morning M-F. I get to work and open my email and there was my help for my overwhelmed emotions. Thanks for the encouragement and please continue to pray with me for God to make me a better parent and help me to to be slow to anger and quick to listen… Listen for his voice!

  238. Sarah Zdeb says

    Wow! You don’t know how much I needed your words today! I feel like the world is on my shoulders and the societal pressures are mounting quickly! I’m ready, but very scared, to make this much needed change. I’ve lost touch with a few good girlfriends…I think now is the time to start calling and planning some much needed “mom’s only time”, so we can share and care together again!

  239. Colleen says

    This post has meant a lot to me today. I have just recently reached out for help with our 6 yr old son. He was adopted from the child welfare system and has many attachment issues. It just seems like we think things are going really well then something new starts. We want so much to help him to heal. Thank you for your encouragement today

  240. Sharie says

    Thank you for your words of wisdom. I have one preschool age child and one toddler. By 9:00 a.m. this morning, we’d had so much strife and fighting between the two that I was ready to go back to bed. Our lives have been complicated by remodeling our house so that it can be updated enough to sell (we hope). The remodeling has taken months since our contractor was unable to stay for the duration and my husband and I have had to do the work ourselves. I frequently find myself out of patience and grace for my children because of the extra work we are trying to do. Usually it is a reminder to me that I’m trying to do too much. Please pray for us! I know that I need to make some changes in what I expect to accomplish during this season, but it is such a major change for me, I’m not sure how to do it.

  241. Audra says

    I need this encouragement today. I know of two moms that could use this devotional..my sister that just had surgery after having her baby 2 and a half weeks ago and my friend who is adopting her 8 month old niece. Thank you for your words. As a mom to three myself 9,12,13…I tried for too long to do everything I did before, it is not until I Started giving my problem to God that I realized that I do not have to be super mom. Just mom is enough for my kids.

  242. Amy says

    What a great devotion! Thank you for the encouragement by sharing your experiences and what God has taught you along the way. It was an encouragement to my heart. May He use it to encourage other mothers in that same place! Thank you also for your giveaway, and may it be a blessing to whomever receives the gift. May God bless you and your ministry, Glynnis.

  243. Luisa says

    Thank you Glynnis! This message made me laugh and cry because this is how I felt yesterday. I hope God blesses you and your loved ones. So that you can contiue to make us all smile…..

  244. Vonda says

    I hate Mother’s Day! I used to hate it because we couldn’t have children and my heart yearned to love a child however now I hate it because being a mom well most days I wish I wasn’t.

    Your post seems so “easy.” You don’t know how many times I have tried to not yell, lose my patience. I have tried to be calm, understanding that they are just children. Yes, children they are but when they “know” better – POP my head blows off (especially during 2 1/2 weeks each month).

    I thought I would be the “perfect” mom and I was ready but then we couldn’t have kids. MMMH maybe there was a reason why we couldn’t. We adopted two precious boys (now 10, 6). Between the disrespect, disobedienc, lying, arguing, fighting that seems to almost always be going on – ahhhhhh and then working and having a destroyed house there is no PEACE.

    Don’t get me wrong, I love my boys but there is no joy in being a mother most days.

  245. Stefanie says

    I just found this blog and today’s post really speaks to me. I have a 2 1/2 yr old boy and a 6 wk old boy. To say that I feel like I’m drowning is an understatement. Sometimes I can’t stand to listen to myself scold and correct my older son constantly, but the behavior issues are overwhelming-not to mention the sleep deprivation! I could really use the book that is being given away for some godly insight!

  246. Missy says

    Thanks so much for posting this today! I am a mother of 3 kiddos under 5 and I am feeling so inadequate these days. I am so thankful for His sweet whispers throughout the day to reassure me and renew my strength.

  247. Christy says

    What a wonderful reminder of leaving all of our troubles in God’s hands. Even when it seems we can go no further he is there to pick us up and help us through the hard times of being a mother. I have felt very overwhelmed in the last few months not only from being a mother but from being a wife and working outside of the home. This post truly encouraged me today.

  248. Dana M-M says

    May God Bless you for helping us all with your words of wisdom. It’s nice to see in writing that we are not alone in our trials. All things are possible with God. Thanks!!

  249. Rose says

    I enjoyed reading your post today and I agree totally. As a mother of two grown children I wish I knew then what I know now–the house will never be cleaned, the laundry will always be there, etc. but not your children. So enjoy them while you can and the rest will take care of itself. The important thing is to spend as much time doing things with them as much as for them. I am trying to remember that now with my grandchildren. It’s more important to get down on the floor and play with them than that load of laundry. Thanks for the reminder.

  250. Lynleigh says

    Thanks for the encouragment. I don’t have boys so I can’t relate to boy things. But I do have 2 girls. The youngest is turning 2 on Sunday and I’ve just started to have issues with defiance. Oh my… this will be a fun year. LOL!!! I’m looking for all the help I can get.

    Thanks!

  251. Stephanie Lutz says

    Thank you for being so transparent! I am too overwhelmed to write more…the baby just woke up…smiles!n

  252. Allysa says

    Thank you so much for your encouraging words! They spoke right to my heart today as I have felt all of the things you mentioned. I have two boys under the age of 3 and there are many days that I feel I’m not doing enough. I feel like I should be making more organic meals, couponing, and cleaning more & all with a smile on my face. I loved how you said there is no “unproductive time.” I need to just “be” and cherish the simple moments with my boys because I know they’ll be gone in an instant.

  253. Mrs JSW says

    Glynnis, I have read your book and followed your blogs & I truly appreciate how you give practical advice that we can all apply, rather than what we “know” we should do or not do. Like all these other moms, I struggle with being everything for everyone for all the time. I am 36 & have been off & on antidepressants for years because of my feelings of failure & that is with huge blessings in my life! I have no idea how moms with multiple personal issues struggle through it. Right now my kids are 9 & 7- my husband & I both work FT with overtime some days; kids have baseball, soccer, piano, church functions, school functions ect. Plus we live 30 miles out in “the country”. My problems have snowballed recently because of some health issues- here is what I pray to God every day now from His word: “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have [it] more abundantly.” John 10:10 I am trying to claim that verse daily! Your posts are always so encouraging to me- may you be blessed!

  254. Steph L says

    Wonderful message!!! With three children under 5 and being someone who likes to accomplish things I can very much relate to this. Thanks for the reminder that it is not about what I do but what God can do with me.

  255. Kim says

    Thank you for reminding me that what seems abnormal for me is totally normal. As a working mom of two toddlers many days, I beat myself up for not being able to keep the same pace. Thanks for keeping it real and keeping us focused!

  256. KTanner says

    Boy do I agree. I was a nurse when I had my 2 children. Both seemed to have special needs that I didn’t feel comfortable leaving them in some one elses care. So I started my own day care in our home.My children are now off,one in college, and the other a Marine. But I continue to do child care. Some times I think it is sad that we don’t see these younger years as more of a valued time than a time to get through. Some days can be very challenging with young children. But 2 things that have helped me on those harder days is to 1) look through the eyes of a child. The excitement of learning new things and appreciating the little things. Life is always new and exciting to them. The other is to ask one self ” in ten years will I even remember this” item that is stressing me out. If the answer is no then it can’t be to important. Only stress the big stuff… and when you look at it, most things are just the little things that wont make any difference in the future.
    Happy mothers day to all.

  257. Holly says

    Definitely what I needed to hear today. Also reminded me of a time when I stepped out & facilitated a parenting class. I definitely wasn’t “qualified” since I wasn’t a parent. However, because of my willingness to help out, moms were able to meet together, discuss specific problems they were having, and hear how others were had handled similar situations. I was also blessed. Not only did none of the regulars care that I wasn’t a parent, they appreciated my being there, and also asked for my advise (have Master’s in Social Work). To be honest I think I got as much or perhaps more out of that group as the mom’s did. Over the years, I was able to share things I learned there with others. However, had forgotten about this, and as I used to tell “my” parents, my education & work experience was beneficial, but definitely didn’t compare to first hand experience.

  258. Jill says

    I have been really struggling with all these points that you have brought up for sometime. I’m a mommy to 2 girls under the age of 3 1/2 and there are many times that I doubt that I’m doing is what God wants me to be doing because I feel like I’m not cut out to have these 2 wonderful little ladies. I think part of it is that I expect too much from myself and when I don’t follow though, I feel like I have failed. Thank you so much for your encouragement!! I really needed this. :)

  259. Katy says

    WOW, this is the first time I’ve read your blog and I greatly needed it. I have three young children and have been desperately trying to be my old self for the last 6 years.

  260. Amy W says

    I cannot believe you are talking about this today! I have three little people 5 and under and just found out that I am pregnant, the week after learning the knews that my husband has been laid off from work. Talking about wanting to run away (which as you said in brackets too, of course I wouldn’t do in a million years)!
    Thanks for the encouragement. I need it right now so desparately my heart feels like it will explode from the stress I feel guilty for having ( a good Christian girl trusts and doesn’t stress right- oops)!
    BLessings,
    Amy

  261. Tiffany_Rucker says

    Thank you so much for the encouragement! I am a homeschooling mom of two and my husband is in the process of planting a church that will begin services in June! Between helping him and homeschooling the kids I find myself on my knees often crying out in desperation for the Lord to help me.

  262. Amanda says

    Just found your blog today. What a great encouragement, exactly what I needed. In the trenches of mothering with kids ages 7, 4 and 3 months and there are good days and bad. Loved the part about living in what God has for us now because it’s where we are soposed to be and it’s prepping for the future plans he has for us. Thank you, I’ll be coming back often!

  263. Christie says

    A friend directed me to your site and blog. I have 3 girls, ages 6,4 and 1. I am learning to say yes to God, and not be so focused on our small family unit. I am inspired by your story of starting a ministry in the midst of needing help yourself. Now that is saying YES to God. Thank you!

  264. Sherri says

    My kids and husband are outside as I cook dinner, so I had to grab a quick second to read this. I am so glad I did. I was feeling overwhelmed, and I’m so thankful to know that God is present in all of my moments. The good, bad, easy and difficult. Thank you for sharing!

    Sherri

  265. says

    Thank you so much for being so transparent. I used to think that I had to be the perfect mom. I found myself sleep deprived and being such a perfectionist about my home and children that I could not enjoy life. Thankfully for my sister-in-law’s input things changed and I put my life and family in order (after God was first).

  266. says

    It never ceases to amaze me the way God chooses to speak to us through others. I, too, am a mother of 3 boys born within 4 years. So much of what you say could be written from my own hand. It’s almost scary how much your devotions reflect my life, my frustrations and my joys. I know I’m not alone out there. It is easy to give in to the enemy’s slick talk about being not good enough, organized enough, kind enough or enough of anything; it’s easy to give in to feelings of desperation, overwhelming feelings and the lie that if only I could do ….. everything would be better. Thank you for your encouragement and for sharing your God-given wisdom.

  267. says

    Glynnis,

    Thanks for your devo today. It was just what I needed to hear. I’ve thought of you so often lately and wished we could visit. I need some “outside” advice on my career decision for the fall, and I’d love to bounce some things around and hear your wisdom on the matter. If you have time, email me. I love you.

    Tammy

  268. Ann Thrasher says

    I enjoy your devotionals SO MUCH! They are always right on target for what I need to hear. Thank you!

  269. Carole says

    Your post was poignantly powerful and spot on. Thanks for sharing. I shared it with two of my close friends who are young mothers who can so relate. They both called me in tears thanking me for your post and we had a great discussion about implementing a plan for their particular lives and also had a time of prayer.

    Thank you for your faithful obedience to our Father, Glynnis. It has a ripple affect and touches untold lives impacting them in a vital way for the Kingdom. Thank you and I appreciate you.

  270. TK says

    I will admit I do feel like running away at times. Sometimes daily! i lost both my parents12 years ago and my brother last aug to suicide. I am in the middle of a divorce also and i have 3 children. Life is so hard some days but I’m on my own and have no one. I always try to stay positive and realize no matter how bad my situation is that it could always be worse. Thanks for your inspiring words!

    • Glynnis says

      I’m praying right now for the Lord to give you peace and joy that surpasses human understanding. I’m asking God to surprise you with His love and attention in tender ways today. I’m so glad you posted a comment today.

  271. Ellen says

    I loved the words in your prayer…about how God already knows what He is going to do to help. Thank you for this post. So, so very much.
    e~

  272. Katrina Kinnison says

    I needed to read this in a big way! Thank you for listening to the still, small voice!

  273. shirley says

    I needed that. Reminder. I struggle as a mom and in other areas as well. Thanks for the words of encouragement.

  274. Leslie Aubry says

    This is just what I needed to hear today. As a new stay at home mom, the daily tasks of caring for a newborn seem overwhelming at times. I can try to rely on my own strength to get through the day, but I know that I’ll only succeed in having a good day if I focus my thoughts on God first. That’s why I think it’s so important to have a daily devotional time set aside for the beginning of the day. Your message has been a blessing to me today. Thank you!

  275. lauren says

    Glad to know I’m not alone! God bless you and all your coworkers at P-31 Ministries for being real!

  276. says

    Thank you! am a homeschooling mum of three between 3 and six, and I find it the hardest yet most rewarding job ever. Thank you for the encouragement!

  277. Shelly says

    Thank you so much for the encouraging words! I am in this season of life and I needed to hear this today. God is with me every second and I am so thankful for that!

  278. Latrelle says

    Thank you for writing to my needs. I LOVE being a Mama !! It truly is the best & the worst AT THE SAME TIME. Only another Mama knows what I mean !

  279. Mary says

    I have 3 boys too. I wish I could have read this a few years ago, but it still helps now! Thank you for your encouraging words.

  280. Katie says

    Your words really spoke to my heart. I, too, have three precious little boys–all of whom were born in 3.5 years. The oldest just turned 5, and the youngest is 18 months. My life has changed so much now that I am a mom, but it has been through my desperation and genuine need to grow that God has begun a beautiful work of refinement in me. I am learning how to depend on Him and how to ask others for help.

  281. says

    Thank you for the above article. I plan to copy it and enclose it in my four daughters and one daughter-in-law’s Mother’s Day card this weekend. Thank you for sharing your precious thoughts with us. Gail S.

  282. Sue says

    I still stand in amazement when God put’s things in front of me just when I need it. I have had a very tough few days and feelings of being overwhelmed were engulfing me. I saw the title of this devotional and immediately thought to myself, God is showing off again. And He did. Thank you for providing words of encouragement to me right now when I needed to here them. I have to continue to remember to put God first in all that I do and ask Him for help when I am feeling overwhelmed. As a mom, I think many of us try to be that Super mom…. face it ladies, we can’t do it without God’s help. Thank you for the reminder!! Hugs and Prayers, Sue

  283. Nakia says

    Awesome words! As I anticipating becoming a mother some day, these words were very real/great insight! Can’t wait to share this with my sister who had a rough day with my seven year nephew today

  284. Gail says

    Thank you for the wonderful words! No matter the ages of our children, we all know that being a mom is a tough but oh, so rewarding job! We all need God’s help to get us through the good and bad days. thank you for the reminders we can all use.

  285. Laura D. says

    Great message Glynnis! You made me feel like I am not alone in feeling inadequate at times. We Mom’s are too hard on ourselves! We need to stop and just enjoy each day, if possible. Our kids truly do grow up fast, and we need to just do the best we can. Just be there for them, not necessarily run to this activity and that one, but be at home with them at night to tuck them in, read to them, eat a meal of pancakes, play…whatever you have time for. I had the privilege of staying home with my 3 kids who are in college now, and I am so grateful for the time I had to spend with them. They have grown into well-adjusted young adults, and I could not be more proud. As they were growing up, I got caught up with feeling that because I was a ‘stay-at-home’ Mom I had to be involved at the school with this committee, and volunteer for that etc. etc. Just as you mentioned Glynnis…I found myself thinking I had to do this to make myself feel adequate, which is so not true!! Doing the job of Mother to 3 young children was more than enough work, I just didn’t realize it at the time. To all the new Mom’s out there and experienced ones like myself, take the time to pat yourselves on the back this Mother’s Day. Being a Mom is the best job you will ever have, because we are doing God’s work on earth. Happy Mother’s Day!!

  286. teen madness says

    Perfect timing! me and my mom group signed the resolution today, just like the movie courageous. All dressed up and pastor led the vows. I get it, I know it, I trust god, but how do you get a teenager out of the bed to even start the day??????? christian say pray and counselor says get a structure. I have both. only the spirit can move that heart but until then I have to get him to school everyday and it’s a nightmare

  287. Jaylene says

    It is amazing to see the number of other mom’s that have the same feelings as I have many days of the week. I really needed this post to remind me that I will not always be perfect as a mother and that if I am having a bad day, I can always start over the net day and God knows that I am not perfect. Thanks for the words of encouragement. It doesn’t matter how many kids you have or how many other activities you work on, God is always there to helpa bring you backto the straight and narrow.

  288. Luz says

    Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for sharing your life most vulnerable moment. it’s a blessing to be the mother of 3 children ages fou r and under
    I pray for God’s strength and wisdom as I navigate this beautiful journey of motherhood. Happy Mother’s Day!

  289. Cheryl says

    Thank you for once again speaking words that are so true. I have 4 children 19,7,5 and 2 and there are some days when I’m completely overwhelmed by their differing needs. Thanks for reminding us of where we should be turning for help.

  290. Nikki says

    Thank you so much for todays devotion. I am completely overwhelmed, as I sit here writing this the years are streaming down my face in desperation. I am very sick with autoimmune and connective tissue disorders and live in alot of pain. Three drs can’t find what the main cause is so I am just medicated to try and help me function. I have a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful teenagers, but they too are struggling with the teen years, my youngest has an attitude and is nasty, which is so hard cause she always used to be so kind and loving to everyone…they both are still having a hard time with me being do sickand but able to do alot of things that I used to be able to do. I feel like I have so much weight on my shoulders. My oldest has some stomach problems also, so sometimes at night both my girls wil ask me to lay with them cause they dont feel good and rrett wont let all the of us sleep together so someone gets disappointed. I feel like I’m always disappointing everyday. I know that god has a plan for all of this and it too wil pass but right now I can’t handle it all, its too much…i am thankful for the devotions that you all provide, and your books too. We are missionaries so it is great to read your boooks and pass along what I learn. Thank you

  291. Nikki says

    Thank you so much for todays devotion. I am completely overwhelmed, as I sit here writing this the years are streaming down my face in desperation. I am very sick with autoimmune and connective tissue disorders and live in alot of pain. Three drs can’t find what the main cause is so I am just medicated to try and help me function. I have a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful teenagers, but they too are struggling with the teen years, my youngest has an attitude and is nasty, which is so hard cause she always used to be so kind and loving to everyone…they both are still having a hard time with me being do sickand not able to do alot of things that I used to be able to do. I feel like I have so much weight on my shoulders. My oldest has some stomach problems also, so sometimes at night both my girls wil ask me to lay with them cause they dont feel good and they wont all fit for us to sleep together so someone gets disappointed. I feel like I’m always disappointing everyday. I know that god has a plan for all of this and it too wil pass but right now I can’t handle it all, its too much…i am thankful for the devotions that you all provide, and your books too. We are missionaries so it is great to read your boooks and pass along what I learn. Thank you for the reminder to get on my knees and thank my loving god who is there for us just waiting.

    • Michelle says

      Lord Jesus, I lift Nikki up to you today. I pray that You will fill her with Your love and peace and joy in the midst of these struggles. Please help her to feel Your presence and Your strength carrying her today. I pray that You will give her doctors divine wisdom and discernment to know what is causing her illness and to know what she needs. Please give her patience as she waits. Please give her wisdom with her children as well. Help her to be able to rest in You. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

      Nikki-hang in there sister! Glynnis’ post today was so encouraging to me today too! I have 3 little ones ages 4 and under and have been very overwhelmed with life!! God bless you today!!

  292. Preena says

    Thanks Glynnis for sharing such a wondeful thought…Being a mom of three year old this is really helpful to me.

  293. Carole Grulke says

    Thank you for this today. I’ve been feeling overwhelmed, stressed & worthless today, especially feeling like a failure in being a good mother to my boys. I have been doubting that I have been good enough. Thanks for this today as I fouind it very encouraging

  294. Tiffany Purnell says

    Thank you so much Gylnnis for your words…I truly needed to hear that I am not defined by my material possessions or by my accomplishments…I’m defined by my position in Christ. God bless you!

  295. shelly says

    Thank you for your encouraging words! I am the mother of 3 young children and often feel like a failure. I am constantly reminding myself that one of my most important jobs now is my children and other things I want to do can wait. But I continue to struggle with it and any support or resources I can get are welcomed!

  296. Leeann says

    Thank you for sharing. I feel like this about everyday. Yesterday was horrible for me. I am so blessed and grateful for my 3 wonderful kids. I struggled for 8 years to get pregnant with my first child. God kept His word and we are so thankful. It is difficult with a 4 year old, 2 1/2 year old and 6 month old. I struggle with the oldest 2 listening and aggravating each other. It can be very draining to deal with all day. Thank you for the reminder. God bless.

  297. Angela says

    I really needed this today. I have been so overwhelmed with the “things” that I do. Just last night I was telling some ladies that my word for the upcoming months is “uncluttered”, not only is my life going to become uncluttered, but my house as well. This was a confirmation that I can’t do it all, all the time. Thanks.

  298. Rowena says

    Thank you for your words that assures a mom’s heart like mine that I am not alone with all the day to day struggles I have. God bless you in your ministry !

  299. Lindsey says

    Thank you so much for your post today. It’s nice to know that others think about running away!! haha But like you, I never would. I complain about the busyness of life and children but it’s funny when I am alone it feels so quiet and I find myself bored. It’s just nice to know I’m not alone. Thanks!

  300. Tabitha says

    I had a friend and member if our church reach out to me last night and in praying about what to say in ministering to her, your words today were just what I needed for her. Thank you for all of the unknown people your ministry blesses.

  301. Vicky says

    I got it right when my daughter was young, but now that she’s in middle school and we’re homeschooling, I find myself running all the time to keep up with her activities and wondering if I’m not TOO focused on the mothering end and losing sight of what other things Father might want to do with me.

  302. Stephanie says

    Enjoyed this so immensely! Just came across your blog today and I’ll definately keep reading!!

  303. Michelle says

    Glynnis…thank you! I am still wiping away tears as I write this. Your blog post today was EXACTLY what I needed to hear. I am a mommy to 3 kids ages 4 and under…my baby is 7 months old and I feel like I have still not “bounced back” since having three. But as you helped me to realize, my idea of “bouncing back” and being able to do EVERYTHING I expect of myself is just unrealistic and is keeping me from enjoying this stage of life and my family. I stay home and am constantly struggling with how to balance everything. I always feel like I am falling short and long to feel “on top of things” for just a little bit! Thank you SOOOO much for your perspective! I have been reading your blog for awhile now and really appreciate what you share! Thank you for being such a humble vessel for the Lord to use.

  304. says

    I also am a mom of 3 boys ages 5, 3, and almost 1 (on Mother’s Day). I am a stay-at-home Mom and I am a Youth/Associate Pastor’s wife. I struggle with being able to do all that I want to do, or used to be able to do as well. I have set expectations in my mind of all I want to accomplish in one day, and sometimes I feel I haven’t accomplished anything. I constantly feel like I am trying to maintain some sort of sanity through the day, but never feel like I can get ahead on any cleaning, sorting, organizing, meal making, etc. I struggle with wanting to be more involved in my Church, yet feel that being “stuck” in the nursery so often keeps me from doing so. I long to be involved in a MOPS group, but there isn’t one in our area. I would like to try to attend a Ladies’ Bible Study in a nearby town, but sometimes getting out the door with 2 little ones, after our oldest has gone to preschool is even a chore. I am at a dry place right now, and wish I had someone to mentor or invest in me. It feels even selfish to say so, because I feel like as a Pastor’s wife, I should be doing that to others. Yet I often don’t have any energy left to give. That makes me feel like somewhat of a failure in that role too. I still have so much to learn about balancing priorities in my home, family and private spiritual life. I feel as though many years have been wasted, but I want to move forward from here with no regrets. Being a mother of preschoolers is a tough time physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. I am grateful to have a husband who is involved and helps as much as he can. Without him, I know I would feel completely unaccomplished. Thank you for your encouragement.

  305. Kelsie says

    Glynnis, I have 3 boys: 5, 3 and 6 months. I AM OVERWHELMED. I know I have a hard time admitting that I need help and then asking for it. But God humbled me, and I was at a point of desperation. I had help for a few weeks, and it made a HUGE difference! Sadly, she didn’t come this week (she’s finishing up school), and I am a wreck! AUGH! I’ve lined up summer help, and I’m ready for her NOW! This was such a great affirmation that I’ve done the right thing. I know I need help. I need a break. I need it so bad! This was a great encouragement to read – thank you for sharing!!

  306. Ginger says

    My friend Shannon sent me your above post, and it was perfect timing! I’m in the middle of writing my book, tentatively titled Tips and Tricks from a Mom of Six – about how my life has changed since I became a Mom, and since my spiritual awakening. I am also hoping to reach out to Moms who need to know that they can trust in God to provide for them and their families. Motherhood can be overwhelming if we forget that we can turn to God with our concerns and find true peace in be-ing who we were made to be – the precious children of God! Your post above spoke to me today – particularly what you’ve written at the end of your 4th point…Just letting those critical thoughts go and resting in our awareness – this truly is key to having a more freeing experience of life. I’m so glad to have read your thoughts, and hope to draw more inspiration from you for my daily living, and my upcoming book! Love and Light to you!

  307. says

    Your description of yourself ‘before’ could very well have been describing me – and somedays still does. The advice you would’ve offered yourself sixteen years previous is what I am slowly starting to learn and adopt. I am seeking God’s will in every part of my life, and trying to remember to do it in every part of each day. After all, He is in the details, no? Thank you for an incredibly resonant post – one that is certainly a gift to mothers, especially this week of Mother’s Day.

  308. Becca C. says

    I truly appreciate you opening up and sharing about your experience as a mom. I think that a lot less of us would be struggling if a lot more of us would be real and honest about motherhood and it’s victories and challenges. What makes it the hardest a lot of times is feeling like there is no one else out there that understands or feels my pain. I’m glad to know that others do and there is hope for all of us. Thanks again.

  309. Pam C says

    There are many things in your blog that I will be using. Especially not expecting as much of myself as I did when I was younger. I am an older parent of a 10 year old adopted daughter with many special emotional needs and after having raised 3 boys that are now in there 30′s this is so much different. I sure don’t have the energy I did but would not change the adoption for anything. This past weekend we had a very agonizing 3 1/2 hours of her being missing out in the woods, fields and very far from home. Had to have the police and fire department and neighbors help in the search. We also had many many prayer warriors with us. It was God that gave me the most comfort while I was searching. I was totally focused on Him and really felt his peace. He came thru and brought her home safely and I could not have done it without him. Keep up the wonderful writing as I am getting so much good out of reading your blogs.

  310. Karin says

    I enjoyed reading your post. We all fail and we all need grace. God is good. Jesus is enough.

  311. says

    Thank you so much for this encouragement, Glynnis! One of the biggest challenges I face these days is balancing being a wife and mom with work and ministry. I often place unrealistic expectations on myself and it was so freeing to read your post today and remember that I need not do so!! You are a blessing. :)

  312. Kathleen says

    You are great!! I love your way of thinking! So helpful – I wish I could pass all your tips on to my kids but sometimes I think they have to discover these things for themselves.
    I am not a young mom – but I am a young grammie of 14!!! and I still run a business so all your tips are still very timely. I tend to expect much of myself and usually can keep up with everything but I still enjoy learning to do things better. The problem is – I expect much from everyone else too. If I can do it why can’t they?? Then I realize that God made us all different and I need to respect that and just appreciate how He made me and see if I can bless others through all the energy He gave to me. I feel I have finally found a ‘friend’ who feels the same way I do about getting things done. Thanks.
    You are appreciated.
    Kathleen

  313. Jennifer M. says

    Wow. I was so “fed up” I did a web search for “overwhelmed moms” and discovered your blog. God always works his magic despite us. (smile). I know I need help, but I just don’t know where to start. Not currently part of a church family. We have been looking for a new church home since we moved 2 1/2 years ago. Frankly I am not motivated to add getting up early on Sundays for church to the routine. I’m exhausted enough w my Monday through Friday schedule, plus guaranteed activities / errands on Saturdays. I am 42, work full-time w a 1 1/2 hour commute each way when you factor in kid drops/pick ups. I have 3 daughters (3, 7 and 16). My hubby works also. Since he often works late or is out of town, I feel like a single parent even though I am married. I absolutely love my kids and can’t imagine my life without them, but many days I feel like driving to the store for milk and never coming back. So much of your post struck a cord with me, and I felt liberated in my spirit. But, I am concerned that part of what I am experiencing is due to lack of boundaries with both my husband and kids. I feel they run all over me. I feel so lost day after day. I will stay plugged in and continue to pray. I know God does love me!

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