Seems like everyone wants a balanced life these days. It sounds so good! Right? But is it even possible?
I think it is, but for there to ever be balance, two opposing sides must be equal. One pound of feathers equals one pound of sand. Eight ounces of milk equals eight ounces of juice.
The problem for most of us is we try to make unequal amounts balance. If you are reading this in an email, you might want to read my Encouragement for Today devotion to get a better idea of where I’m going today.
I’ll never find balance when the basic parts of my life don’t equal out foundationally. For example, my biggest problem area is trying to fit too many responsibilities into my available time and energy. Sometimes this happens out of my control – like when my son tore his meniscus wrestling and several weeks were filled with doctors’ appointments, surgery and me happily providing TLC at home. That’s not what I’m talking about.
I’m talking about chronic over-commitment. This woman always feels rushed and slightly panicked, wondering what (or who) she’s forgotten, and asking herself if she will EVER be able to sit down and relax … and getting annoyed because her husband seems to be able to sit and watch football WHEN THERE’S SO MUCH TO DO!!! (harumph!)
Maybe you’ve got a handle on your schedule, but your home is chronically cluttered. Perhaps it’s because you are trying to fit too much stuff into too little house. If that’s the case, you might want to read back through my Clutter-Free Challenge I did in January. Click here to read the first post.
Back to the schedule issue. The best way I know how to avoid over-scheduling my life is to be confident (to the best of my ability) in God’s will for me at any given time. In my devotion I promised to provide a checklist that helps me figure out what God is asking me to do at any given time.
Basically, my checklist is more a list of questions I ask myself when I’m feeling pulled in a hundred directions and when I’m having trouble focusing. These questions help me assess my responsibilities and commitments. And if I’m spending lots of time on things that aren’t on this list, it’s time to start deleting or delegating.
Here is my list of questions and current answers:
What are my priorities?
|What can only I do?||Develop my faith
Take care of my health
Be my husband’s wife
Be my children’s mother
|What has God entrusted to me?||The care of a home
The care of children
A ministry of writing
|Am I a good steward of what I already have?||Do I love my husband and children as I should?
Do I manage money well?
Do I care for my home sufficiently?
Do I work as effectively as I can?
|What passion has God put in my heart?||To share the Good News about Jesus and God’s Word.
To mentor other women in homemaking and productivity.
To serve God through Proverbs 31 Ministries.
|What has God asked me to do that I haven’t done yet?||Create a digital magazine for P31|
You might want to develop your own list, or use mine. But whatever you do to find balance, make sure you ask God for direction and wisdom. He will answer you.
Some think it’s presumptuous to believe we can know God’s will. Yet the Bible makes it clear God isn’t trying to withhold that information. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Based on these words by the apostle Paul, we can know God’s will and His priorities for us. This verse gives two conditions for knowing God’s will:
- Not conforming to the pattern of the world.
- Being transformed by the renewing of our minds.
The pattern of this world will obscure God’s priorities for us every time, because it creates a self-centered life. A self-centered life is one in which we consistently choose our own desires, regardless of whether they line up with God’s ways.
Only Olympic gymnasts have perfect balance. The rest of us will always be wobbly. But so long as we keep our eyes on our Heavenly Father and His priorities for us, we’ll not crash and burn.
Thanks so much for joining me today. And I’d love to hear from you. What priority in your life needs a bit more attention? Post a comment and I’ll select a winner at random to receive my book, “I Used to Be So Organized.” (I’ve got an entire chapter on setting priorities, plus I share how I manage those priorities.) I’ll announce the winner on Friday.
Grace & Peace,