How to act when offended

We’ve all been hurt. And although the emotion is the same, our responses are quite different.

Some withdraw in a puddle of tears.

Some immediately get on the phone to a friend with the words “You won’t believe what just happened!”

Some plot revenge.

I tend to get a little stony inside, vowing internally to not let that happen again.

While I understand each response, the Bible suggests a different approach in most cases. Sometimes it is wise to separate ourselves from the one who has hurt us. But most of the time, the person who hurts us isn’t malicious. They are just human. And humans mess up.  Maybe you’ve messed up before too? I sure have.

So today, I’m sharing some Scriptures that help me get perspective when I’ve been hurt. They remind me to choose to love instead of put up a wall.  They remind me to put my trust in God. And I’m also giving away a copy of my friend Karen Ehman’s newest book, Keep it Shut.  Because sometimes we need to learn how to keep the wrong words inside and speak the right words instead.

These verses all come from a stack of 3×5 cards I keep in my top desk drawer. When I find a verse that speaks to me, I write it down and keep it here.  These are verses I’ve memorized and ones I’m working on. They are verses that have changed my life. And I hope they help you too.


“You will keep in perfect peace, him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.”  Isaiah 26:30

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourself.”  Philippians 2:3

“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”  2 Corinthians 10:5

“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 18:20

“‘Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you and will rescue you,’ declares the Lord. Then the Lord reached out his hand and touched my mouth and said to me, ‘I have put my words in your mouth.’”   Jeremiah 1:8-9

 ”Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2

“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”  Romans 12:10

“A fool shows his annoyance at one, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.”  Proverbs 12:16

“May the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight.” Psalms 19:14

“If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.”  Luke 6:32-36

“Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.” 1 Corinthians 4:2


As you can see, I need a lot of reminding about how to choose God’s way over my way. :-)

Screen_Shot_2014-11-03_at_2.04.50_PM_largeNow, I’d like to end my post with a giveaway of Keep it Shut.  To enter, please post a comment on my blog. I’ll choose a winner next week and email you personally.

Thanks for joining me today.