Our Best Plans…or His?

When was a time in your life when your security was shaken (preferably when you were a young woman) and you saw the faithfulness of God come through?

Today I’m honored to welcome my dear friend Lynn Cowell to my blog.  Lynn has a calling to speak truth in the hearts of young women, specifically teen girls. But that also includes caring for the mamas of those girls.

Her latest book Magnetic is helping girls understand how to be a godly example in their relationships with boys.  And I’m delighted to say there’s a little part in it that features the opinions of my son Robbie.

Lynn is a wife, mom of three young adults, a speaker for Proverbs 31 Ministries and a good friend. I hope you enjoy her post today.  And keep reading till the end for a giveaway of Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants.


Shaken and terrified, I forced myself to wake up. My dream felt so real my sadness threatened to carry into my day.

In my dream, my oldest daughter had gotten married and I had no part.

I wasn’t in on the news of neither the proposal nor the planning. No part whatsoever. In the dream, I sat in the back of the church watching everything take place. As her favorite music began to play, my mind swirled. My girl is getting married! Why am I just sitting here? 

Rushing to the bride’s room, I found my girl. Her bridal outfit was a reflection of her unique style, completely different from anything I would have chosen.

She was fine; I was not.

When I awoke, I knew the dream wasn’t random. There was truth I needed to wake up to.

I can be one of those moms; yes, “those moms”. The ones with the built-in expectations. The ones with unspoken yet idealistic dreams of what “should be.”

The truth is God wants me to recognize my ideals, my plans, and my dreams are not always the best. But His are.

Isaiah 55:8 – 9 tells us God’s thoughts and our thoughts aren’t the same. His thoughts and His ways are always higher and better than our ways and thoughts.

Although I envision the perfect birthday, vacation or future wedding, God may have a different plan. A better plan. Maybe not “perfect” in the way I imagine, but perfect according to His plans and purposes.

This is especially hard as a mother. Wanting the very best for our kids, we can get our hearts set on what we think best looks like.

The problem comes when we forget the most important part of the plans: God’s thoughts and His ways.

Although there is value in our wisdom and experience, we must be intentional to give attention to God and His perfect wisdom for their future. Because without it, we can hinder the process of our children learning to hear from God for themselves.

While I can say I’m growing every day when it comes to expectations, I will always be on my knees asking God to help me because this struggle comes almost daily it seems. I find comfort, through the power of the Holy Spirit living in me, to come to God, surrendering my thoughts and plans to Him.

It’s there I can lay down my thoughts and plans for my children as well.

Maybe like me, the idea of taking a step back from directing all of your children’s ways scares you a bit. Here is where I find my comfort: my Father God is my children’s Father and He loves them even more than I do.

Let’s rest securely knowing when we encourage our children to follow God, His plan for them and their lives is much better than ours.


Thanks, Lynn!!  I need this kind of reminder to pray for God’s will for my children!

I’m excited to give away one copy of Lynn’s book Magnetic today.  To enter, simply post a comment on my blog about Lynn’s post and we’ll select one commenter at random to win.  We’ll email you privately next week if you win.

Thanks so much for joining me today!!



Magnetic_largePacked with honesty, encouragement and perspective-changing truth Magnetic by Lynn Cowell(available at Proverbs 31 Ministry, Amazon, B&N, CBD, everywhere books are sold), will empower girls and young woman to reach their fullest potential by focusing on becoming who God made them to be! A girl who reflects God’s love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. A girl who will attract the right type of guy one day: one who loves God with all his heart and who will cherish her!